Our guest blog post today is by Susan Posluszny, the founder of OPTIONS for Career & Life Planning, specializing in unique programs and services to support students with college major and career planning. Susan is a Master Career Counselor with over 25 years of career counseling experience including 18 years as a college career center director. She is the author of In Search of a College Major & Career Direction, an interactive program designed to support teens and young adults with choosing a college major and career path.Her career counseling and coaching practice is located in New Boston, NH. Subscribe to Susan’s e-newsletter, Career Options, at www.collegesandmajors.com
While watching the Food Network channel one day, I happened upon a series called ‘Chefography’. This episode of Chefography featured a biographical account of Wolfgang Puck’s journey to success. I knew little about this renowned chef but I was intrigued since I’d recently been to Disney World and had a great experience at his restaurant, Wolfgang Puck Café, in Downtown Disney. While annual revenue from his cluster of businesses now averages millions of dollars, his father did not approve of his career interest and his early career experiences were quite shaky.
At the tender age of 14, Puck left his home to work as an apprentice in a hotel kitchen. Evidently, young Puck was a bit of a klutz and the chef threw him out and sent him back home to his parents. He was ashamed to face his father with the news of his job loss since his father was against this career choice. Dreading going home, he spent hours on a bridge contemplating suicide while looking over a river that ran through town. Eventually, Puck went back and hid in the hotel’s basement, peeling potatoes for the kitchen workers, until the chef discovered him two weeks later. The chef appreciated Puck’s tenacity and made arrangements for him to apprentice in another hotel’s kitchen. Puck’s career took numerous twists and turns over time as he honed his culinary skills and began his ventures as a restaurant owner.
As I watched this show, I couldn’t help but imagine the emotions that surged through Puck as he contemplated facing his father or committing suicide. It’s natural for children to want to please their parents and fear of parental scorn can weigh heavily on a child. If young Puck had committed suicide, would his father have realized the role his influence played in the choice to end his life? As I reflected further on Puck’s life and career, I couldn’t help but wonder what his father must think of his son’s career decision now that he’s a successful businessman and one of America’s most famous and influential chefs. I expect that he no longer considers his son’s decision to have been a poor one.
Research that I conducted while working as a college career center director revealed that parents are the number one influence in the career and college major choices made by their children. That influence may be subtle, and beyond the conscious awareness of the child, or not so subtle as was the case with young Puck and his father. Now I suppose you could argue that his father’s influence actually helped to lead young Puck to success. You might say that what helped Puck to hang in there, when the going got tough, was wanting to avoid hearing his father say, ‘I told you so’. I don’t know about you, but I can’t help think that there are better ways to influence a child.
As parents, it can be most challenging to support a child’s career decision when it goes against the grain of our own personal values and the future we envision for that child. Yet, we can never know what the future holds and where a chosen path may lead. As children grow, they need to cultivate a sense of self in order to one day make their own way in this world. Along with a growing sense of self, they also need to develop confidence in their ability to take positive action towards their career goals. This includes learning how to identify their career and lifestyle preferences, how to explore career options that match those preferences, and where to go to gain the skills and life experiences that will move them in a direction of their own choosing. Parents can help their children to build self confidence by telling them they believe in their ability to take positive action on their own behalf. Parents can also facilitate a growing sense of self by encouraging their children to engage in activities and experiences that let them explore and reality test their career interests, so that they are making informed choices. Yes, as parents, we are the number one influence in the lives of our children. It’s up to us to decide the form that our influence will take.
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