With so many college-bound teens headed to college in the fall, it’s important to know that roommates can cause some grief. The key to having a positive roommate experience is COMMUNICATION. That starts BEFORE you head off to college by making contact with your future roommate and setting up some mutually agreeable ground rules.
Today’s post from The Real College Guide is from their Expert Q&A section and answered by Liz Cruger.
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Q: I HATE my roommate! Is there any way I can move?
A: I’ve seen a ton of roommate conflicts turn totally out of control just because the roomies refuse to talk to each other. If this is your situation, be rational and calm, not accusatory, and tell your roommate what drives you nuts. Clothes on the floor, loud music, keeping the door open? Any of these issues can be negotiated. If you need help, your R.A. and professional Residence Life staff are trained to help you work out differences.
If you absolutely cannot stand your roommate, most schools will allow room changes after a certain trial period. If you’re just two weeks into the semester, you’ll probably have to stick it out for a while. If it’s been a month or so, you might be in luck.
The best person to ask is your R.A., who will know the details of your school’s housing policy. Many colleges have a room change period in which you can apply to move to another empty spot on campus. These periods usually fall within each semester or trimester, so if you come back from break and can’t take it anymore, there’s a good chance you aren’t stuck. On the other hand, if your roommate leaves, you probably won’t have a single for very long — housing will fill the vacancy with someone else. And there’s no guarantee a replacement will be any easier to live with. So before you write off your roommate for good, give it your best effort to smooth things over.
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Excellent article. The subject may be ignored by parents who assume – for all the money they’re paying – that the college will “work it out.”
Speaking from experience, they rarely work it out. It’s up to the student to be proactive and communicate.