It seems like just yesterday that you brought your little bundle of joy home from the hospital, and now he’s a teenager preparing to leave home and head off to college. Luckily, you’ve done your job well, preparing him for the many trials that he’ll face when you’re not present to guide him. You’ve taught him to respect authority and treat others with kindness and compassion, although you’ve also instilled in him a healthy sense of caution, common sense, and self-preservation. He is confident and capable of caring for himself. So while you no doubt feel sad about his departure, you know that he is well-equipped to handle himself like an adult during his time in school. And yet, he may not be entirely prepared for some of the stresses and pressures he’ll encounter on campus as a college freshman. So as your last lesson before he leaves home, you might want to figure out how to help him set his expectations accordingly so that he’s not blindsided.

Academics

The first area you’ll probably want to address is academics, and they’ll likely be a bit more demanding than high school. Hopefully your teen has taken some AP classes, which are much closer to college-level requirements than standard high school courses. With any luck, the college he attends will accept some of these courses in lieu of general education credits, allowing your child a couple of light semesters to start off. Either way, though, he’ll be better prepared if he has taken AP coursework. However, he needs to understand that the onus is on him to attend class, study, and turn in his homework in a timely manner. This means setting a schedule that includes blocking out classes and study time and sticking to them. As a rule of thumb, every hour spent in class should coincide with approximately three hours of homework/study time.

Social activity

Next you should discuss social pursuits. College is not only a great time to make a new and diverse group of friends and participate in social activities and clubs, but it also provides myriad opportunities to network. However, your student should be prepared for the whirlwind that is social life on nearly every college campus. He could easily get sucked into partying and skipping class, and it’s not a bad idea to discuss the drinking and drug culture that seem to go hand-in-hand with college living. The hope is that your teen will stay away from these activities, which could easily derail his academic progress, but you’re fooling yourself if you think he won’t at least be confronted with such options. Talking it out ahead of time can help him to understand what’s out there and come up with a plan to have fun without hurting himself or others.

Consequences

College is a great time for students to test their independence. But it is also possible that those independent choices, right or wrong, will bring consequences. Remind your soon-to-be college freshman to think before they act and weigh the pros and cons of their decision. Help them understand that they will have to face the consequences of their actions and these consequences often affect their future.

The pressure to succeed in college is high, and it can definitely get to the average college freshman that has left familiar surroundings and a solid support network behind for the first time in his life. He may have his heart set on eventually attending criminal justice graduate programs or obtaining a PhD in medicine, but he’ll first have to make it through the stresses of freshman year. And the best way for you to help your student is to prepare him as best you can for what he’ll face in college. Armed with a plan of action he is more likely to proceed with confidence and go the distance.