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How to Prepare a Standout College Application–Book Review and Giveaway

 

standout college applicationRecently I received a book to review about how to create an application that stands out from the others. The book, How to Prepare a Standout College Application: Expert Advice That Takes You From LMO (like many others) to Admit, is written by Allison Cooper Chisolm and Anna Ivey, both former admissions officers at top universities. They have drawn from their experiences and given parents and students a step by step process on how to complete a stellar college application that makes an impression on admissions officers.

According to Chisholm and Ivey,

Stellar credentials are great, but without a standout application, they are not enough. It really is as simple as that. So when people ask us, “What’s the secret?” our answer is always the same: The application is the secret.

The authors remind applicants that a stellar application requires time and effort. It’s not something you can complete in an afternoon. They believe there are 7 proven strategies that work:

  1. Work Smarter, Not Harder
  2. Think Like an Admissions Officer
  3. Tell Your Story
  4. Focus on the Core Four: Passion, Talent, Initiative and Impact
  5. Sweat the Details
  6. Make the Form Work for You
  7. Show, Don’t Tell

Using these strategies, their book is a DIY guide to help your student produce a standout application. All of the stories and examples in the book are from personal experiences with real-life applicants and their families. The book covers all aspects of the application process from start to finish: how to get started; how to complete the application; and how to submit it and follow up.

What I liked about the book

It’s hard to summarize such a wealth of information in a review, but as I read the book, I thought about the things that I liked from a parent and a college coach standpoint:

  • The book gives easy to understand parent tips throughout, giving parents the information they need to help their student with the application process.
  • Seeing the application through the eyes of an admissions officer is invaluable.
  • The book walks the student through each step of telling their story and how it helps them stand out from other applicants.
  • The insider tips on how to get the application in the right pile by answering questions related to your student’s admissions chances.
  • Sample resumes and other application components.
  • They address the nuances of home school applicants.
  • The book addresses the issues of following up, handling questions, and dealing with deferred admission.

This book is an invaluable tool for parents who are helping their student navigate the college maze. You can purchase it on Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/How-Prepare-Standout-College-Application/dp/1118414403). But, if you’re lucky, you might just win a FREE copy of the book provided by the authors. Just enter my Book Giveway below, win, and it could be on its way to you when the giveaway ends on September 26, 2013.

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Wednesday’s Parent: Adding the extras

 

Wednesday’s child may be full of woe but Wednesday’s Parent can substitute action for anxiety. Each Wednesday Wendy and I will provide parent tips to get and keep your student on the college track. It’s never too late or too early to start!

Wednesday’s Parent will give twice the info and double the blog posts on critical parenting issues by clicking on the link at the end of the article from pocsmom.com to parentingforcollege and vice versa.

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Paul Hemphill, a successful college counselor and the Video College Advisor knows the importance of extracurriculars:

“Getting into college is now all about presentation. As a student you’re like a little brown box with thousands in front of you and behind you and you all look the same. You need to put a ribbon around your little brown box. Ribbonize your sameness!”

How your student packages himself will make the difference and that difference could be all about the extras—the ribbon on the box is your student’s extra activities outside the realm of academics. As I have said often, it’s not a pumped up list of activities to stack the resume. It’s the extras that set your student apart from other applicants and culminate with an offer of admission.

extracurricularsWhat are the extras?

Extras, or extracurricular activities, are what students occupy their time with outside of studying and taking tests. These activities can be school sponsored activities, community service, church sponsored service, a part-time job, or even personal hobbies and talents. The list is endless but it should represent who your student’s goals and interests.

Why are the extras important?

Colleges are looking for well-rounded students. Colleges aren’t looking for students who bury their faces in books, hide out in their dorm rooms, and hibernate in the library. They need students who will contribute to their student population and participate in activities on campus. A student with hobbies and interests, communicate organization skills and multi-tasking qualities—both of these are needed with the added difficulty and challenges in college.

How do students determine which extras to choose?

Here’s where you can help—encourage them to participate in activities that interest them. Pushing them to run for student council or campaign for school president if this is not their area of interest will not end well. You know your student better than anyone else. What interests them? What do they like to do? What types of sports are they involved in? Do they like to serve others at church or in the community? Asking these questions will help you guide your student as they determine their interests.

How do students package the extras?

Consistency is key when approaching extracurriculars. College admissions officers can spot a stacked resume a mile away. When they see a student who has done the same activities for four years they take notice. And when they see an unusual activity, the application goes to the top of the pile quickly. This is a ribbon on the brown box. Starting and maintaining a small business while in high school, participating in local politics and training guide dogs are examples of these “outside of the box” activities.

The extras are just the beginning of your student’s life of discovery. These extras shape their academic futures and their future careers. Knowing what they want will help them stay on track in college and find a job in their area of interest after graduation.

As always, Wendy (POCSMom) adds her expertise and her unique perspective on adding the extras–don’t miss her take on the topic!

4 Ways a Tutor Can Help

 

In the 2009 film The Blind Side, one of my favorite characters was Michael’s tutor Miss Sue. Played by the charming Kathy Bates, Miss Sue wouldn’t let Michael quit when he became fed up with writing assignments, algebra problems or choosing the best college.

If your son or daughter is already college bound, it probably sounds unnecessary to think about hiring a tutor. After all, they have already made the grades they need. However, there are some surprising impacts which the right tutor can have in your teen’s life. And these unexpected benefits might be just what your family can use during the crazy season which comprises the final years of high school.

So here are 4 reasons that parents counting down till college might want to consider investing in a good private tutor Singapore for their prospective college student.

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1. Help! I’m Drowning!

In junior and senior years there is an overwhelming process of both beginning a new phase and closing an old one. Usually by tenth grade, high schoolers are already practicing for college entrance exams like the SAT or the ACT. From there on, it’s a mad dash to visit colleges, attend scholarship days, continue doing well in advanced classes, take rigorous tests, fill out applications, commit to a school, graduate and then hopefully breathe.

The calming presence of a tutor can serve as extra help with remembering guidelines and crafting college essays. A good tutor should be able to give useful guidance during this hectic time and help students focus on what is important.

2. Learning  Skills

Another benefit of tutoring for teens is that they provide help with establishing valuable skills before kids go off to college. Organizational and planning skills along are imperative. Enhancing study skills, learning to speed read and ensuring that students write proficiently are also helpful in college.

And if a student is preparing for that daunting SAT exam, then a tutor may be able to offer tips and practice for success while instilling confidence in a seemingly pivotal time when it is easy to feel that the rest of life hangs on the outcome of one test.

3. Stress Relief

Preparing for college is an exciting time. But it can also be stressful as many important decisions are considered and life remains busier than ever. Bringing in a third party who is not quite as emotionally involved as you and your teen are might just be a good way to save your relationship with your child. You can find a tutor here who can help work with a student when your involvement results in tension.

4. Steady Presence

One of the best things about bringing in a tutor is that you can choose a positive influence over your teen in the last years that you have left with him or her. An older tutor, such as a retired teacher, might be able to speak experience into the situation. Younger tutors, perhaps a college students themselves, can have a different but equally beneficial impact as they are able to speak firsthand experience and relate to your child. In either direction, a tutor may be the perfect person to help foster enthusiasm back into your child when the worry of deadlines and decisions detracts from the excitement of graduation and beginning college.

So whether it is practicing timed essays for the SAT or reviewing South University accreditation, a tutor may be just the figure your child needs during the wonderful but challenging season of pre-college.

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This post is brought to you by Jessica Socheski, a freelance writer who specializes in articles on general tutoring.

Scholarship Friday: Young Patriots Essay Contest

 

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The Young Patriots Essay Contest is currently being offered by the National Center for Policy Analysis. This is an essay contest open to all high school students. The winner will receive a $5,000 college scholarship, second place will receive a $3,000 scholarship, and third place will receive a $2,000 scholarship.

Topic and formatting

This contest is designed to challenge high school students to creatively solve problems in the realm of public policy through the art of writing.  The topic of this year’s essay contest is:  “According to the four required readings. What policy changes should the government pursue in order to best foster economic prosperity?” Note that the four required readings are available at the above link.

Your essay should be written in English and should not exceed 1,200 words. More questions on format (and on the contest in general) can be found answered on the contest website.

Awards

Aside from the aforementioned scholarships, winners will:

  • Have their essay published on Debate Central
  • See their essay posted on the National Center for Policy Analysis (NCPA) home page
  • Have their essay shared with 350,000 NCPA Policy Patriots via email
  • Have their winning entry be sent to their hometown newspapers, radio and TV.

Application and deadline

To apply, simply email your essay in to lauren.sabino@ncpa.org. Make sure to include all essential information, including your name, address, phone number(s) and e-mail address in the body of the e-mail. The submission deadline is December 15, 2013.

For more great scholarships go to Scholarships360.org.

 

Common App Resources

 

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Listen up parents and students! The school year has begun and for seniors, it’s time to start thinking about that all-important Common Application. You know the one? The one that sells your student to the college. The one that asks pointed questions about your student, their high school career, and their interests. Yes. That Common Application.

You may have hundreds of questions in your head. Which colleges accept it? Can my student vary their essays to tailor them toward specific colleges? What exactly is included in the Common App?

When you have questions, you need answers. Zinch has provided you with the answers to all these questions and more. In their article they give you links, tips and videos to help you complete the process. Zinch may be the go-to site for scholarships, but their high school blog is the go-to site for helps with the college admissions process.

Read all about Zinch resource toolkit for the Common App on their high school blog

Wednesday’s Parent: Safety First

 

Wednesday’s child may be full of woe but Wednesday’s parent can substitute action for anxiety. Each Wednesday Wendy and I will provide parent tips to get and keep your student on the college track. It’s never too late or too early to start!

Wednesday’s Parent will give twice the info and double the blog posts on critical parenting issues by clicking on the link at the end of the article from www.pocsmom.com to www.parentingforcollege.com and vice versa.

This post is about how parents can convey the importance of academics to prepare their child for college:

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safetyTeaching safety begins when your child begins to walk and touch things. “Watch out it’s hot!” “Be careful, you could hurt yourself.” “Look both ways before you cross the street.” When your kids go off to college you worry about their safety. Why? Because you won’t be there to protect them and see that they stay safe.

Apart from an act of random violence or the actions of a psychotic shooter, parents can train their kids through the stages of life to make wise choices to assure their safety when they leave for college. It’s never too late, or too early to start.

Avoid contact with strangers

This danger has taken on a whole new level with the advent of social media. Most kids know that they shouldn’t talk to strangers in real life; but have you taught them to avoid stranger contact online? It’s easy online for predators to build a relationship with a child and get them to trust them. Then, the next step is to coerce them to meet in person. Before your kid leaves for college, make it perfectly clear that this type of behavior is dangerous. Explain the dangers and use real stories if you must—it may seem harsh at first but until they see this is possible, they may not believe you.

Use the buddy system

Grade school, middle school, high school, and college—train your kids to use the buddy system. Teach them to never walk anywhere alone, go to a party alone, go to a mall alone, or anywhere they could potentially be unsafe. Remember Natalie Holloway? She might still be alive if she hadn’t broken this rule. This is a tough lesson to swallow and many adults don’t practice this safety tip. But in this world, being alone in any situation can put you in a place where danger is imminent.

Pay attention to your surroundings

Teach your kids to notice anything out of the ordinary. We all get that “gut” feeling when things just don’t seem right. They will know when something is amiss. Is there a car that doesn’t belong? Do they see someone that shouldn’t be where they are, like an adult hanging around a playground alone watching kids? Are there guys hanging around that make your daughters feel threatened? This one skill in itself could ensure their safety.

Follow the rules

We all teach our kids to follow the rules. It’s a basic tenant of growing up. Stand in line. Take your turn. Share with others. Do what your teacher tells you to do. When you hear the fire alarms walk calmly out of the building and stay with your teacher. But this learned safety tactic can also help them even more when they go to college. Rules are put in place to protect them on and off campus. If they learn this lesson early on they will carry it with them to college where their safety might be compromised.

Don’t make decisions that compromise your safety

Texting and driving have become a hot topic lately. When your teenager takes the wheel you nag and nag about not texting while driving. This is a decision that could cost them their life. Decisions become even more critical in college; especially in regards to drinking and driving, underage drinking, hooking up with strangers and walking around alone late at night. Making the wrong decision could mean the difference between having a good time, ending up in jail, or worse—dead. Scary stuff for parents. It should be just as scary for your kids.

Get help if you need it

Adults often overlook this simple lesson. But so many times, if we had just asked for help, outcomes might have been different. Teach your kids to always be comfortable asking for help. It won’t only translate well into all areas of their lives, but it will help assure they know to ask for help if they feel threatened or in danger.

With all the dangers in the world today, parents are even more concerned about the safety of their kids. If you teach them when they are young, they will carry those lessons with them to college.

Read POCSMom’s advice about putting safety first.

 

Mom-Approved Tips: Do the Math

 

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Math– not my favorite subject. The words fraction, parallelogram, and xy coordinates strike fear and panic in the hearts of most parents. But believe it or not, according to a recent survey, 42% of adults believe that math was the most valuable subject they studied in school. It might also surprise you to learn that 70% of middle school students said they liked math. That’s an encouraging statistic, especially since STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) graduates are sought after and students are recognizing the future in these careers.

Why is math so important?

Student: I hate math. I just don’t see why I have to learn it. I’ll never use it after I graduate.

Mom: I hate math too. I never understood it and I never used it after high school.

WRONG. Do the math—you can’t survive without it. Everything we do revolves around facts and figures. If you don’t know the basics you can’t get by in this world. We use math in our personal lives and in our careers. Math teaches us problem solving skills and how to follow a specific path to get a desired answer. It’s so much more than 2+2=4. Even though most of us dreaded the word problems (and I bet your students do too), these teach us how to use math to find a solution. Math is used in just about every career as well.

Are your student’s math skills good enough for college?

Student: If I can just pass this math course I can graduate and get into college.

Mom: I will be so glad when this year is over. I can’t handle another frustrating night of math homework.

WRONG. Just passing and not understanding the math will not prepare your student for college, let alone the standardized tests. They need to understand the basic formulas and techniques used to solve problems. If they don’t, college will be even more of a struggle. Colleges look for students who are proficient in math and the sciences. Why? Because it demonstrates they have problem solving skills and have mastered difficult subjects.

How do you do the math if you can’t do the math?

Student: I don’t understand the problem and I have no idea how to solve it.

Mom: I have no idea either. Go ask your father.

WRONG. For most of us, basic algebra and geometry left us when we graduated from high school and/or college. When our teens ask us for help, we shake our heads and tell them to ask the other parent who almost always shakes their head as well. If you find yourself in this situation, turn to others for help—teachers, tutors and even online sites. Kahn Academy does a great job of explaining math and uses the videos to walk students through the step by step process. There are online tutoring networks as well. If your student is struggling, get them help before they drown.

Math is here to stay—whether we embrace it or dislike it. You can’t balance a budget, stop at the grocery store, calculate measurements for home improvement projects or determine the shortest driving route without it. The next time your student asks, “Why is math important” go to Google and type the question in the search box. You’ll be amazed at how many people have asked that same question and how many answers you will find.

 

$10,000 Scholarship Essay Contest

 

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This year, The Foundation for the Individual Rights in Education is once again offering high school juniors and seniors the chance to win scholarships towards their education. 

High school juniors and seniors for the 2013–2014 school year who are U.S. citizens or permanent residents are eligible to participate in FIRE’s $10,000 scholarship essay contest. To enter, students must submit an essay between 800 and 1,000 words on the provided topic below.

One $10,000 first prize, one $5,000 second prize, and three $1,000 runner-up prizes will be awarded for the best essays. Four $500 winners will be chosen from the remaining entrants in a drawing.

FIRE will accept essay contest entries from August 1, 2013 to January 1, 2014Winners will be announced January 31, 2014.

Instructions for the Essay:

Familiarize yourself with FIRE and FIRE’s issues. Our mission statement:

The mission of FIRE mission is to defend and sustain individual rights at America’s colleges and universities. These rights include freedom of speech, legal equality, due process, religious liberty, and sanctity of conscience—the essential qualities of individual liberty and dignity. FIRE’s core mission is to protect the unprotected and to educate the public and communities of concerned Americans about the threats to these rights on our campuses and about the means to preserve them.

Reading FIRE’s Guide to Free Speech on Campus and exploring thefire.org are good ways to become more familiar with FIRE.

Watch these two short videos:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSwp-UTNzus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yS6IA93o79s

Students should also watch FIRE’s other videos, available on YouTube.com/theFIREorg.

Answer the essay question: Why is free speech important at our nation’s colleges and universities? Using examples from both videos, discuss how censorship of student speech is incompatible with higher education. Your essay should be 800–1,000 words.

For complete details, as well as the submission form, please visit http://thefire.org/contest.

 

The Benefits of Failure, and the Failure of Ranking

 

failureLook around you and examine all the inventions surrounding you: is there a light bulb in the room? Is there an IPod playing music in the background? Is there a vacuum cleaner in the closest? We see these objects and we remember the success of their inventors, but what we often don’t think about is all the failure that they experienced before they finally created the product we use today. And we forget that those failures were the most essential part of the invention process: they provided information about what methods didn’t work and what the inventors should try next. Still, we ignore those failures because, as a culture, we have forgotten the importance of failure and have made it something to be avoided, punished, and forgotten.

Why has this become part of our culture? Well, our education system, through its use of ranking systems and punishments, has ingrained students with the idea that failure is to be avoided at all costs. When students receive an “F” on their report card they are scolded or held back, both of which are negative consequences for their failure. And when students succeed, they are given an “A” and praised. Students quickly learn to use the most accepted methods to achieve good grades and to not attempt things in which they may fail.  These lessons have created a culture of individuals who avoid new or creative avenues of thought in favor of the tried and true as to avoid failure.  Instead of encouraging learning, the ranking system has taught students only how to follow instructions and do as they’re told, effectively squashing the learning process.

Why Failure is an Essential Process of Learning

Babies are perfect examples of how failure can be the best teacher. As babies develop and learn things like walking and talking, adults are not actively instructing or ranking their progress. Instead, babies learn through a process of experimentation: they simply try over and over again until they achieve the results they were looking for.

Think of a baby beginning to walk. They stand and they walk until they fall down. And then they try it again. Every attempt teaches them new things about what works the best until all of the sudden they are walking and then even running. A similar process happens with talking: babies attempt talking for a long time before they ever successfully articulate a word. This same process that we accept in young children is the one we have destroyed in our education system. Those creative learning powers that babies use so easily have been stripped from us in our adolescence, severely hampering our learning abilities.

The Failure of Ranking Systems in Schools

The grading system itself is not what causes this fear of failure, that has come with the work of schools in turning failure into something sinful and wrong. Think of a time you received a poor grade in a class. Did your parents or teachers ask you what methods you tried? Did they congratulate you on trying something different? Did they encourage you to try a new method to see if it worked better?  Most likely, their response was to scold or punish you for your inability, maybe you were even held back a grade. This response to a bad grade teaches students that their failure is shameful and never to be repeated.

As students learn this lesson better and better, they begin to employ two methods to avoid failure. They stop exploring and experimenting with various solutions or processes, and instead, they begin to follow the most consistent method of achieving success. Students learn how to follow instructions rather than engaging with the problem in a meaningful way.  The second method that many students employ is to stop trying. They label themselves as someone who is not capable of the task. “I’m not a math person” or “I’ll never understand English” are defense mechanisms to prevent the shame of failure. These methods will follow students into their future professions where they will avoid tasks that appear too challenging or stick with the approved methods instead of attempting innovation.

How Can We Remedy the Damage?

The first step to accepting failure and learning from it is to remove the idea of shame from failure. This means also removing the blame. We often assign blame when failure is involved, and when a student fails, it’s their abilities that we blame for their failure. However, we must change this attitude and stop trying to assign blame. Instead we must first consider the reason for failure and assess whether a lesson can be learned from this failure. If the student has failed because they weren’t sure exactly how to accomplish something and simply tried a method, we need to acknowledge their attempts and encourage them to try a new method.  We want to encourage students to seek success because they want the satisfaction rather than asking them to achieve success in order to conform and avoid punishment. By doing this we can re-establish the value of failure, and we can begin again to learn the important lessons failure has to offer us.

What We Stand to Gain

There’s an old saying that goes “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” This saying espouses an idea that failure is not the end of a process; instead, it is a stepping stone on the pass to success. We have lost the wisdom of this idea and have become crippled with our fear of failure. For a moment, imagine how many things you would try or do differently if you were not worried about failing. Isn’t it freeing? By removing the shame of failure from our school systems, we may be able to release our students to a land of learning full of experimentation, innovation, and success.

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Today’s guest post is contributed by Launch Education Group, founded in 2007. They offer one-to-one, in-home quality tutoring programs for SAT and ISEE prep in the greater Los Angeles and New York City area. Follow Launch Education Group on Facebook.

 

Wednesday’s Parent: Reading, Writing and Arithmetic

 

Wednesday’s child may be full of woe but Wednesday’s parent can substitute action for anxiety. Each Wednesday Wendy and I will provide parent tips to get and keep your student on the college track. It’s never too late or too early to start!

Wednesday’s Parent will give twice the info and double the blog posts on critical parenting issues by clicking on the link at the end of the article from www.pocsmom.com to www.parentingforcollege.com and vice versa.

This post is about how parents can convey the importance of academics to prepare their child for college:

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Back in the “good ole’ days” reading, writing and arithmetic were the core subjects. Kids were taught to read with “Dick and Jane”, write printing and cursive on Big Ten tablets, and master 2+2=4. But as time progressed and primary education became a stepping stone for higher education, the curriculum, while still centered around these core subjects, has evolved. With the focus on higher education, it’s even more crucial that your kids understand the importance of academics.

How has it evolved and how can you help your kids be successful learners in these three disciplines?

Reading

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In today’s digital age, reading is done a little differently. Kids used to go to libraries and check out books; now they go online and download them for e-readers. Technology competes for their attention and hours spent reading have been replaced with hours online in social media and playing games. Finding the time read is difficult, but you need to encourage your kids to read from the time they are small children until they finish college.

Why is reading so important? It expands their vocabulary and opens their minds to new ideas. Reading is a critical part of any standardized test and a key aspect of the college entrance exams. Reading teaches them to pay attention and ingest information as they read. It’s going to benefit them in high school, in college and in life if they develop a love for reading.

Writing

Years ago writing was a separate subject. Kids were schooled in the nuances of printing and moved on to cursive. Today, most schools don’t concentrate on the mechanics of it but on the content. Additionally, written correspondence is becoming less frequent as emails and text messages are replacing actual notes and letters.

An easy way to encourage writing in your kids is start them with journaling at an early age. Writing down their thoughts helps them to learn effective communication and teaches them how to use the written word to express their thoughts and ideas. This will be incredibly helpful in high school as they work on essays and as they begin to construct their essays for college applications and scholarships.

Arithmetic

It’s amazing to me how many teens do not know how to make change or use basic math tables without a calculator. They learn the basics of addition, subtraction, multiplication and division in grade school; but as time progresses, calculators begin being used and they forget how to calculate things without them.

How can you help your kids use those skills in their daily lives? Take them to the store with you and have them calculate and compare prices. Download math games and puzzlers to their phones, tablets and e-readers. As they move on into high school, help them to see the importance of math skills and formulas. Having these courses in your high school curriculum will help them as they apply to colleges and eventually move on to more advanced math in college and in their careers.

Schools now offer more than the three course disciplines: reading, writing, and arithmetic. But the foundation these subjects give students makes it easier for them to study history, science, art, music and communication. Breaking it down to these three will help parents guide their kids as they progress through school and focus on academics.

Read Wendy’s article Valuing Academics in 4 Stages.