I am seriously tired or seeing “coronavirus” on every social media platform. I’m tired of seeing people panic and act like it’s the end of the world if they can’t find toilet paper. I’m tired of hearing about another college or event that has been cancelled. I guess I’m just tired.
If you have a college-bound junior or senior, you probably feel the same way I do. But along with the frustration comes some concern and disappointment. Senior events are being cancelled. Colleges aren’t allowing visits. Admitted student events are cancelled. Some schools are having extended spring breaks.
How will all of this affect you and how can you cope?
There is going to be disappointment
Your teen is going to experience some disappointment. They have been looking forward to this time since they started high school. It may not be the end of the world to you, but it is to them. Be patient with them. Support them. Give them tons of hugs. You know this will pass but they don’t.
There are options available to make this tolerable
Thankfully we live in a digital world. In person visits cannot occur but virtual visits are available. Most colleges have them on their websites and you can also view some on YoUniversityTV video tours. After that, chat online with some current students you can find on social media. Most students are happy to brag about their school.
Mom can help by asking friends on Facebook for help connecting with current students. Grown and Flown is a great resource for current college parents.
If you have questions that can’t be answered by either of these options, reach out to the college itself. They will be happy to help you and understand your frustration.
Take care of your family
It goes without saying that the number one priority is the health and safety of your family. That includes protecting their mental health. Fear and anxiety can take over when everything seems out of control. Have open conversations about what everyone is feeling and find ways to help everyone cope.
The admissions outlook will change
Sarah Harberson, a college counselor, points out these things to expect during these next few months:
Expect decisions to be released on time.
Admitted student programs are being canceled amid fears of the fast-spreading virus.
With great uncertainty, the waitlist will be in full effect.
Acceptance rates will rise.
Be ready for colleges to aggressively try to convince students to enroll even after they make a decision.
Campus tours and information sessions are being canceled for prospective students and families of younger grades.
ACT and SAT tests sites are being shut down not only abroad but here in the states as well.
Virtual classes are replacing face-to-face in-person classes for high schools and colleges.
If you need questions answered or just need to vent, hop over to my Facebook page and commensurate with other parents who are going through the same things you are. In the meantime, take a deep breath and hang in there–this too shall pass.
While there are no single shortcuts to academic success, there are fortunately a number of beneficial ways for students to actively increase the chances of it. Here are the best techniques to encourage your college-bound student to stay motivated and achieve.
Start Preparing Early
It’s widely known that successful students are often those who are forward thinkers. Before leaving for college and starting the first semester, encourage your student to research the syllabus of the course and learn what it entails, such as the deadlines and dates of any essays or exams they will have, as well as any academic books that they may require. Building forward thinking structures such as this can prepare them for the organisational skills that they will need at college.
Learn Effective Note-taking
Note taking is a valuable skill for college life and can make the difference between passing and failing an exam. Numerous studies surrounding students and note taking have proven that those who effectively take notes remember the material better than those who don’t. Students that write down everything that their professors say can prove to be inefficient. It’s best to encourage them to take time to actively listen and jot down the most significant points that can aid their study, and to review and organize their notes to ensure that they are coherent for when they need to refer back to them.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Extra Help
Most colleges offer an array of support services to make the student experience as helpful as possible. While it can be rewarding to feel academically challenged, it can sometimes cause unnecessary stress which can affect student’s overall work quality and performance. If applicable, encourage your college-bound student to attend workshops, one-to-one meetings with their professors, academic writing classes, or even online course training and exam preparation websites such as https://www.athomeprep.com.
Embrace New Opportunities
Keeping an eye out for academic opportunities such as societies and work experience through flyers or social media can greatly impact your student’s academic success. Getting involved can enable students to be recognized, network with others, and learn new invaluable skills that can be instrumental to their desired future careers. It can also be a great way to meet like-minded people and quickly make new friends!
Learn the Art of Balance
While putting effort in at college equates to success, it’s important to remind your college-bound student that their well being should remain a priority above all. Students who spend all their time studying may begin to neglect their sleep, nutritional habits, physical and mental health, as well as their social lives. This can result in the feeling of “burn-out” and can even induce feelings of anxiety. College life can easily be balanced through allowing well-deserved breaks from studying, and smart time management. For example, it can be useful to create daily reminders in digital calendars on their phones and laptops to outline their schedule and set goals, as well as know when to organize study days and rest days.
With all the talk of helicopter parenting, over parenting, snowplow
parenting and parents refusing to allow their students become independent
adults, it’s important to understand how to coach your teenager without crossing
the line.
A recent article in Business
Insider quoted a study conducted by Florida State University focusing on
some of the issues with today’s parenting:
Helicopter parents are “overly
involved, protective parents who provide substantial support (e.g., financial,
emotional, physical health advice) to their emerging adult children, often
intervening in their affairs and making decisions for them.”
“Individuals with parents who
engage in highly controlling, overprotective behaviors have been characterized
as being overly needy in terms of seeking attention, approval and direction
from others,” the authors wrote in summarizing past research. “In addition,
they have been found to utilize more ineffective coping skills, express higher
levels of narcissism and demonstrate lower self-efficacy.”
In contrast…
“Developmentally appropriate
parenting can promote healthy decision-making and a child’s development of
autonomy, increasing the likelihood that their children will become
independent, well-adjusted, problem-solving adults. They tend to cope better
with stress, have more self-esteem and experience less depression.”
Knowing this…
What is a parent’s role during the college prep
process?
I will give you 10 coaching steps to take for a positive college prep experience.
Step 1-Offer guidance and advice.
Parents are primarily coaches—coaching and directing their teenager during high school so that they will be prepared to apply to and eventually attend college. It’s natural to take this role in parenting and it works well in the area of college prep.
Your teenager may not always
ask, but they will need advice during this stressful time. Listen to their
concerns and offer guidance and advice. Listening is the key because teenagers
don’t always communicate what they are feeling and don’t always ask for help.
The next thing parents need to
do is…
Step 2-Establish
boundaries.
Early during the college prep process, have a serious
conversation with your student.
Because of the insurmountable number of tasks involved with
college prep, your student will need your help. The key word here is, “help”.
One admissions officer told me, “Let your student drive the car”. It won’t be
easy to let your student take control of the process, but this is part of the
training they will need to be successful in college.
Next, we will discuss exactly how you can help.
Step 3-Be
an encourager and a helper.
Be an encourager by reminding your student of deadlines,
from test registration to FAFSA and application submission. Encourage them to stay
on top of every task and suggest creating a timeline for each task.
Parents can participate in just about every activity during
college prep.
You can help with organization by establishing a college
landing zone. A place where you and your student can keep track of all
college-related information.
You can help with test prep—practicing vocabulary words,
administering practice tests, and hiring a tutor if necessary. You can also
help them create a study schedule to prepare for the tests.
You can help your student create a college list. What is at
the top of their list? What are they interested in studying? What career
interests them? What college activities outside of academics are important?
Does location or size matter? Use these questions to begin crafting the list.
You can participate in college visits by planning the
visits, traveling with them, and discussing the visits afterwards, Under no
circumstances should you take control during any aspect of the campus visit,
from the tour to the interviews.
Scholarship searching can be a daunting task for any busy
student. Parents can help by searching for the scholarships, making sure all
the components of the scholarship application are completed, proofreading any
essays, and making sure they are submitted correctly and on time.
Once the applications have been submitted you can participate in the final decision. Weigh all the financial aid offers against one another and help your student choose the college that is the best fit: academically, socially and financially. This is an important part of coaching.
Step
4-Teach life skills.
Teenagers need time and priority management skills,
conflict management skills, and effective communication skills. They need to
know when and how to ask for help, they need to effectively maneuver the
college bureaucracy, and they need to operate on a budget and manage their
money. They need to self-advocate and have the self-discipline to stay safe.
Step
5-Teach Academic skills.
Students should start college with strong study skills.
They need to be able to write a well-researched and documented, accurate,
organized, and well-written paper. They need to start college prepared to
attend all their classes, read the assigned materials, and know how to take
notes. They need to be prepared to pursue study groups, additional review
periods, or other options such as seeking out their teachers when they have
questions and need help.
Step
6-Model behavior
Parents should be involved in their teenager’s school by
participating in parent-teacher meetings and similar events, judging their
student’s academic strengths and weaknesses, and pushing them to get help when
they need it. Parents should make expectations and rules clear for both
academics and behavior, and follow through on reasonable consequences. Parents
should give their teenagers graduated responsibilities, teach them to budget,
and make them responsible when they make mistakes.
Step 7-Educate yourself about everything to do with college prep
In order to be the “wise
sage”, you need to educate yourself about all aspects of college prep. And in
today’s age of technology and social media, you have all the tools available to
do this. Take advantage of all the college prep advice on social media
(Twitter, Facebook, and even Pinterest) have all sorts of tips for parents to
help with college prep. Subscribe to blogs that provide parents with advice and
connect with other parents on Facebook who are going through the same process.
On my blog, I offer numerous
lists of experts to follow on social media, along with advice from college
counselors, test prep tutors, essay experts and admissions officers. These tips
help parents stay on top of all the college prep tasks and stay educated about
any changes in standardized tests, admissions or financial aid.
Step
8-Have the money talk
Parents
should have a serious conversation with their student about money before even
applying to colleges. Approach it as a collaborative discussion and use
this as a start to helping your teen understand the importance of budgeting and
“needs vs wants”.
Start
off by making sure your teen knows what a “need” is and what a “want”
is in relation to college costs. For some teens, all wants are needs. This
is the time to nail the definition down and clarify it in their minds.
Decide
just who will be paying for each college expense. Every family is
different but it’s important to make this clear from the very beginning so that
there won’t be any surprises.
Use a budget worksheet and understand ALL college expenses. Don’t just assume
that tuition, room and board will cover it. There will be additional costs as
well like travel, entertainment, dorm furnishings, student fees and others. Be
sure to budget for these additional expenses.
When
your teens contribute to the costs of their education, they will be more
invested in their success. They will also learn valuable budgeting lessons that
will stick with them past college and into adulthood. You’re doing your teen a
disservice if you don’t involve them in the college financial discussions. They
need to be active participants in the decisions and also play an active part in
paying for that high-cost college education.
Step
9-Make financial aid a priority.
Even if you can afford to pay for college, why would you
use the money if your student can get some of the free money from scholarships
and grants? It makes sense to apply for scholarships. Scholarships are
available for all ages and students should start applying early, even before
senior year. There are scholarships for students with average grades, and
scholarships that don’t require a GPA or even an essay. Sign up for scholarship
search engines to find scholarship matches. Leave no stone unturned: search
locally, ask friends, talk to your student’s school counselor and listen to the
media. Scholarships are literally everywhere, and many local ones go unclaimed
every year.
When your student is a senior, complete the FAFSA. The
FAFSA is the key to getting not only federal aid, but aid from the colleges
themselves. Much of the college aid is merit based but your student won’t
receive it if they don’t submit the FAFSA.
Next…
Step
10-Participate in the final decision.
Once your student is accepted to colleges, due your due diligence
and compare all the financial aid awards. If one award is higher than another
and your student wants to attend that college, appeal the lower award using the
higher award as leverage. Find the college that is the best fit: academically,
socially and financially. Don’t allow your student to take on high amounts of
debt just because it’s the college he or she wants to attend. Be the voice of
reason and explain the consequences of graduating with too much student loan
debt…
Now, some final words of advice…
Nag
less and listen more
You will be tempted to nag: write this, apply to this, study
for this, and search for this. Nagging will only cause strife and stress for
you and your student. Instead, listen to his concerns, his visions, and his dreams.
Listen carefully to ascertain whether or not college is the best choice. Listen
to him talk about how he feels about the entire college prep process. And once
you’ve listened, guide him — don’t nag.
Do
less and encourage more
Avoid the temptation to take over the process. As one
admissions officer told me, “Let your student drive the car.” You can be a
coach, an advisor, a mentor and an attentive listener. You can also help with
data gathering, scholarship searching, and deadline reminders. But under no
circumstances should this process be yours. Let your student own his own
future.
Compare
less and research more
Don’t listen to other parents who want you to compare your
student to theirs. This is you and your student’s journey. Do your research.
Ask the experts. Don’t rely on hearsay to make your decisions. Your student is unique,
and his journey will be unique. Arm yourself with all the information and tools
to help with the process. Then pass it along to your student.
Panic
less and plan more
If there’s one piece of advice I give parents, it’s this:
stay organized and don’t miss any deadlines. Make a plan throughout high school
and follow the plan. Once your student enters senior year, you should be
organized and ready to begin the application process.
Whether your student is a freshman or entering the last
semester of their junior year, you should be looking ahead towards graduation.
The first, and obvious question, should be—what’s next? What will your student
do after high school? Will they enter the job market, take a gap year off to
decide, enter the military, or will college be their next step?
If college is in their future, the college list should be a
priority. All decisions, goals and pursuits will be geared toward receiving an
offer of admission from those colleges on that list. Those colleges should be
chosen with much thought and planning. Your student’s goal is to first be
offered admission, and secondly be awarded aid that will pay for the education.
In order to craft a great college list, you and your student
must keep an open mind. With over 4000 institutions of higher learning in this
country alone, the obvious choices are not necessarily the best ones. Before you
haphazardly throw some names onto the list, follow these simple steps:
Step 1: Look at the statistics and rise to the top
The best college is the college that fits your student’s
academic and social needs, and at the same time is affordable. The last thing
you want is for your student to graduate with debt; and the best way to
guarantee the most merit aid is to apply to a college where your student is at
the top of the applicant pool. If your student’s grades, scores, and
extracurriculars exceed those of the average applicant, a college will be more
likely to entice him with merit aid (scholarships and grants).
How do you know where your student falls in the applicant
pool? Use sites like College
Navigator and College Data
to compare your student with current students. Look at the figures for admitted
students: what is the average test score, what is the average GPA, how much
weight do they place on extracurriculars? If your student’s statistics are
above these average amounts, the college will consider them a highly desirable applicant.
Step 2: Consider the unknowns
Most students gravitate toward the known colleges—those with
national or state recognition. But there are so many excellent colleges within
each state that go unnoticed. These are often smaller private colleges offering
excellent liberal arts educations. These colleges have alumni that support them
and often provide continued support—translating into scholarships and grants to
new students. The larger state university may appear cheaper based on tuition,
but the smaller private college will often award more merit aid to entice
students.
I recommend parents encourage their students to look into the College That Change Lives . These colleges are built on the premise of “building the knowledge, character and values of young people by introducing them to a personalized and transformative collegiate experience.” Also consider technical colleges like Penn College that combine a liberal arts education with hands-on career training.
You might be surprised to know that in addition to all the
factors students use to choose a college, there is one they might overlook:
statistics. While location, major, campus appeal, and others are certainly
important statistics will help you and your student make a more informed
college choice.
Why statistics? Statistics will help you determine some of
the key factors involved in choosing a college. With statistics you increase
the odds of your student being accepted, receiving more financial aid, and
graduating on time. You can also determine the class sizes, the freshman
retention rate and the odds of finding a job after graduation.
Two good sources for college statistics are College Navigator and College Data. These two resources will
help you make an informed college choice. Numbers aren’t everything, but
consider these eight
important stats when you and your student are looking at schools:
Percentage of student who are employed after
graduation
Step 4: Let the money do the talking
There’s no point in adding a college to the list if it’s
unaffordable. Your student will be disappointed if offered admission and the
cost makes it impossible for them to attend. Before applying, research
the financial
aid footprint of every single college on the list. How much aid do
they typically give? How much debt does the average student graduate with? Use
their net price calculator and determine what it will cost to attend there
before applying. If your student is offered admission, there will be no surprises
and disappointment if you do your due diligence before the application process
begins.
Colleges offering small percentages of financial aid in the
form of scholarships and grants should only be considered if you can pay or
your student makes applying to scholarships a priority. You can’t count on
scholarships or grants, but your student can certainly do everything to position
themselves at the top of the applicant pool to receive them.
Step 5: Do a side-by-side comparison
How do you compare colleges once you have a solid list? Your
student should develop their own rankings based on their personal choices and
priorities. These items might include the obvious items like academics and location,
to such unconventional items like Greek life and campus appearance. List all
the items on a chart, giving each item a plus (+) or a minus (-) and tally up
the scores. The colleges with the highest scores should make the final list.
Colleges with lower scores might not make the list or need further evaluation.
By following these five steps, your student can create a
strong college list of colleges that fit them academically, socially and
financially. You might discover some hidden gems while navigating the search,
just as my daughter did (and fell in love!).
One of the most common worries that a lot of parents tend to experience is that they aren’t going to be able to afford to send their kids to college. After all, college is one of those things that’s pretty much essential to get a competitive edge in their careers but it’s also one of the most expensive things that they will ever do. Of course, it’s not particularly productive to spend your time worrying about it. Especially because there are actually plenty of things that you can do in order to make sure that you’re in a financial position to send your kids to college. Here are just a few things that you may want to consider.
Start saving
The simplest and most obvious thing that you can do in order to make sure that you can afford to send your child to college is to start saving your money as early as possible. Having money stored away in a savings account means that when the time for college rolls around, you’re already prepared for it and you don’t have to worry about the ways in which it will impact your finances overall. Even if you’re just putting away a little bit here and there where you can, if you’re focused and disciplined about it, that kind of money can end up growing far more quickly than you might expect.
Grow your money
One of the best things that you can do in order to bring in the kind of extra money that you might need to send your child to college is to find ways to invest it. There are plenty of investment options out there for those looking to grow their money. Property is one of the safest and most profitable. Working with agents like William Pitt Sotheby’s Realty can help you find the perfect properties that are the perfect place to invest your money. Of course, investing always comes with risks so it’s worth being as cautious as possible so that you don’t wind up making any mistakes with your money.
Borrow
Taking out a loan in order to fund your child’s college experience is one of the most common options and for good reason. The truth is that a lot of people simply don’t have the means to pay it themselves so taking out a loan can be a great option. You just need to be sure that you’re borrowing carefully. Do your research and make sure that any loan you take out is fully accredited and that you’re not falling prey to any predatory practices.
One of the most important things to remember is that financing is something that you should think about from the very start of the college application process. The last thing you want is for your child to be attending their orientation and you’re only just thinking about how you’re actually going to be able to afford to finance their college experience. It’s something that requires planning and preparation. In all likelihood, it’s something you’ll be thinking bout far longer than your child.
Who doesn’t love podcasts? It’s the best way to be entertained
or educated wherever you are: in the car, at work, at home or waiting at the
doctor’s office. There truly is a podcast for every interest. My daughter
listens to the History Chicks and has learned a great deal of history while
listening. I like to listen to inspirational podcasts that motivate and
encourage me.
With all the college information available to parents today, there’s no excuse for being uninformed about the ins and outs of the college process. Podcasts are a great way to stay informed. Here’s a list of my favorites:
Practical, up-to-date interviews with experts in college
admissions, financial aid, personal statements, test prep and more. Ethan
Sawyer (aka College Essay Guy), interviews deans of admission, financial aid
experts, and veterans of the admissions field to extract, then distill their
advice into practical steps for students and those guiding them through the
process. From creating an awesome college list to appealing a financial aid
letter, Ethan skips the general advice and gets right to the action items, all
in an effort to bring more ease, joy and purpose into the college admissions
process.
Here you’ll find tips and tricks for studying specific
subjects and how to prepare for major tests like the SAT and ACT. You’ll also
discover valuable insights from local and world-wide educational experts as
they discuss poignant topics like “How to Help Teens Reduce Stress” and
“Navigating School and Career with Physical and Learning Disabilities”. Practical tips and shortcuts for students are
revealed in episodes like “Vocabulary Memorization Shortcuts for the SAT” and
“Google Docs Organization for School”.
Nationally recognized experts Megan Dorsey and Gretchen
Wegner share tips and tricks about creative study strategies, SAT/ACT prep,
college applications, essay writing, teen-friendly time management tools, and
more. They will also host experts on a number of subjects including
scholarships, parenting, test prep, learning differences, NCAA athletics, and
more! About the hosts: Megan is a college admissions consultant and test prep
guru who helps students and parents plan and prepare for college admission.
Gretchen is an academic life coach who helps stressed out students and their
families feel smart, confident and ready for the rigors of college without
losing their lives to school and studying. Together, they are a one-stop shop
for how to survive…and thrive!…during the final approach into higher
education.
College Prep Genius will teach you all the tips and tricks to
ace the SAT and get FREE money for college (no strings attached)! Jean Burk’s
program will give you all the inside information on how to get money for
college, put together a college transcript, and become a logic-based thinker.
Jean will debunk myths and misconceptions, all while providing you all the
information on how to stop fearing the SAT.
Need help navigating the college admissions process? Every
other Monday they bring you exclusive interviews with Former Admissions
Officers, graduates from top universities, and admissions experts. Each episode
will be filled with application tips and first-hand experiences that will help
you get into your dream school. Brought to you by InGenius Prep, the world’s
largest team of Former Admissions Officers.
Two high school seniors and one Columbia freshman explore
the black box that is the college application process. They cover topics like
handling deferrals, asking for letters of recommendations, the college essay
and more.
Each week on VoiceAmerica College Coach hosts their internet
radio program and podcast, Getting In: A College Coach Conversation. Each week,
former University of Pennsylvania admissions officer Elizabeth Heaton leads the
discussion on a variety of admissions and college finance topics including: approaching
and crafting essays, successfully appealing financial aid decisions, selecting
the right college, determining the most effective savings vehicle to help pay
for it and more!
Julie Kim, a Harvard-graduate college consultant, the
founder of Julie Kim Consulting is the host of Demystifying College Admissions.
This podcast is designed to inspire high school students to identify their
passions, learn all about the most updated college admissions strategies, with
guests and experts from all industries! She also dives into mental health so
that this podcast will be a healthy, safe, and vulnerable space for all teens
and parents.
Applying for college is more complex and often times more
confusing than it used to be. In addition, there are so many resources out
there. How do you know which is the right one? The best one? Shouldn’t everyone
have access to the best information out there, regardless of price? On this
podcast, Mark Hofer and Anna Ren, both independent college consultants, share
real and relevant topics in college admissions to provide you with a fresh
perspective and truly actionable takeaways that you can use as you prepare to
apply for college.
Let a college admission expert (Mark) and a mom who’s been
through the process (Anika) guide you through the college admission process.
Learn key strategies and hear true stories on topics ranging from building the
right college list, getting admitted to the colleges on your list; how to pay
for college, and even choosing the right career. The podcast combines in depth
knowledge and insights about college admissions and college life with a
lighthearted, and at times, entertaining style that makes Mark and Anika easy
to listen to.
Life can throw us curve balls when we least expect it, don’t you think? It doesn’t matter how old we are, what we are doing at that precise moment, rich, poor, in love, on our own. Life can be full of champagne but easily be filled with bitter lemons at a moments notice. Often we don’t really know what path we should be taking, we just go with what feels right, what we think we should be doing, or just basically making the best out of the deck of cards we have been dealt. So what is next when life can be ever-changing? If you find yourself at crossroads don’t despair especially about education. Here are some of the things that you could consider to help you make the right decision on what might be next for you.
Learn something new and go back to school
Maybe learning is going to be the right thing for you, and perhaps you want to study to work towards gaining qualifications and degrees in specific areas or industry. This can be a great way to understand what career you want to take. Whether you decide to study from home or attend a university, the experience not just studying can really help you decide on what you want from life moving forward.
Taking a job that’s linked to your degree
Once you have gained your qualifications and degrees you may be wondering what is next and there are a number of things you can do with it. You could continue your educational journey, be more specific in the areas you work in and learn on the job. You could use your degree to gain a graduate job where you can be given an underlying overview of a company and a different role to play, there is more information here about how this could be a good option for you. Or you may have done all you can with the educational side of things and secure yourself a job that is specific to your degree and qualifications.
Travel
Traveling is often the most popular way to spend a GAP year, and many students backpack across different countries, exploring their hidden gems and enjoying experiences like no other. However, you can also incorporate travel into your studies, and take advantage of trips for University students. They can work well alongside your courses as well as giving you amazing experiences. Traveling to remote parts of the world can also give you a new perspective on life and how you see things. Which can often change you as a person and help you later on in life.
Volunteer and gain work experience
Maybe you want to use the time out for something good, and volunteering can be a great way to do it. Not only sure you doing good for someone or something, but you are also gaining valuable work experience in a different environment, which could help you seek out employment in the future. Volunteering can be something you do sporadically, or you could choose to focus on it full time.
Let’s hope these suggestions help your consider your options regarding further education.
With a new year and a new decade beginning, it’s a good idea to evaluate goals and take stock of your progress. This is true with college planning and life in general. The easiest thing in the world is to say you’re going to do something. This is especially found when we suggest we’ll ‘do it tomorrow’. When we do that, we basically offset our need to complete a task or to even think about it, because having to do said task or start off from zero can seem stressful and worrying.
But the truth is that while the rumination is a bottomless pit, so is the satisfaction that comes from actually taking care of the tasks you plan for yourself. In fact, the art of staying on top of things and realizing your dreams, such as 2020 new year resolutions for example, is a satisfying journey without end. Once you complete something you gain that true sense of satisfaction, and you feel even more motivated to achieve something anew. The more you do this, the more the philosophy of ‘I will act now’ becomes a harmonious chorus in your mind rather than a grating shout.
With that in mind, we hope the following advice can help you curate this potential within yourself:
Find Something You Can Orient Yourself Towards
Like any vehicle, you’ll struggle to leave the driveway if you’re empty on fuel. The fuel that we’re talking about here doesn’t come in the form of a meal or an obligation, but in something you willingly submit yourself to, something you perceive as worth your time. Perhaps you know that losing weight is necessary if you’re to reduce the risk of health issues now you’re in your 30s. Maybe this can help you learn how to best run a Couch 2 5k or how to get over your fear of the gym. Nietzsche once said ‘he who has a why to live for can bear any how.’ Through this pursuit, you’ll be making good on that concept.
Take On A Challenge
Why not take on a challenge, or something that you may not otherwise have done? Maybe this could be as simple as taking a second language night course, or going up for a five-minute open mic comedy session at a local bar. Whatever makes you quake in your boots yet helps you realize a dream is often a good way forward. You’d be surprised just how much this can actualize your life and make every day feel important. Sometimes, you have to dive in the deep end to get things moving.
Plan Your Progress
Plan your progress going forward. Breaking down your goals for 2020 and noting them, step by step in Midori planners can help you correspond action to days. This in itself can give you a vital step up over your previous efforts, because when your plans are staring at you in black and white, it’s hard to refute you ever made them when struggling to get out of bed. Planning your progress can also help you see how far you’ve come – and that is not something to take for granted.
With this advice, you’re sure to apply the artful practice of making things happen in life.
When your child is applying to a competitive college, every single thing that goes on the application makes a big difference. Grades are obviously very important, and so is the college application essay, but there will be plenty of students that have good grades and a great essay. So, how do the colleges choose between applicants? If they can’t separate them based on their grades and essays, they will start to look for other things, like extracurricular activities. The things that your child does outside of their normal studies make a big difference because they demonstrate a lot of the skills that colleges are looking for.
If your child participates in certain extracurricular activities that develop a wide range of skills, that looks great on their college application. It is often the thing that separates them from the other applicants and lands them their place, so it’s very important. There are all sorts of things that they can do, but it’s important that they choose something that they actually like. A college admissions officer will be able to tell the difference between somebody that is engaging in activities for their application alone, and somebody that is passionate about them.
If your child is not currently engaged in any extracurricular activities, these are some of the things that look great on college applications.
Student Government
Student government is a great thing to get involved with if your child has any interest in politics or even if they want more of a say in how their school is run. Colleges love it because it demonstrates a few very important qualities. Firstly, it shows that you are a good leader and the other students in your school look up to you as somebody that can be relied upon. Secondly, it shows that you are responsible and capable because you are trusted with important issues. Colleges also like students that are willing to engage with the student community and get involved in events that promote the college, so student government is a great thing for your child to put on their applications.
Educational Summer Camps
Educational summer camps are a great way for students to learn new skills and boost their existing knowledge so they can improve their grades. There are some great camps that teach very desirable skills, like Coder Kids, for example, which teaches computer coding skills. If your child attends these educational summer camps, it shows colleges that they are dedicated to their education and they are willing to put in the hard work. It will also help them to improve their grades, especially if there are certain subjects that they are struggling with.
Academic Teams And Clubs
Academic teams and clubs are another great way for students to show their dedication to education, especially if they enter competitions. It shows that where academic pursuits are concerned, that student is willing to rise to the challenge and push themselves so they can improve. It also demonstrates a competitive spirit which a lot of colleges like. If your child is particularly interested in a certain subject and they excel at it, you should see if the school has any teams or clubs that they can attend. Math and science clubs are the most popular, but there are teams for most academic subjects. If there is not one available, they should consider starting one of their own because this also demonstrates good organizational and leadership skills.
The Debate Team
The debate team has always been a very popular among extracurricular activities for students to put on their college applications. Being able to form a coherent argument is an important skill for college students when they are writing essays or giving presentations on a subject. Being a member of the debate team shows that you have the critical thinking skills to weigh up both sides of an argument and draw conclusions. It also demonstrates that you have good public speaking skills and you can perform under pressure. Their speaking skills are very beneficial in a classroom setting because they will encourage discussion among their classmates and improve the learning environment. People on the debate team are also more likely to have a good understanding of current events.
Internships
The thing that a lot of college students lack is work experience. This is an issue when they graduate and start looking for jobs because they do not have much real world experience. Colleges want as many of their students to graduate and get good jobs afterward because it reflects well on them, which is why they like applications that have obtained an internship. It also shows that you have the general skills that people need in the workforce like organisation, time management, and people skills. It also shows a level of maturity that a lot of students won’t have.
Volunteer Work
Volunteer work is a great way to give back to the local community and meet a lot of interesting people at the same time. It’s also great for developing new skills, and colleges love to see it on applications. In fact, a lot of the best schools consider it a must-have for any successful applicants. The best way to find volunteering opportunities for your child is to think about their existing hobbies and how they could incorporate them in a volunteering capacity. For example, if they are passionate about sports they could coach a local kids team. If they love animals, local shelters are always looking for people to help out. Volunteer work is only beneficial if it’s something that they really care about, so make sure that they find something that is a good fit.
A Part Time Job
Some applicants worry that their part time job doesn’t leave them enough time for extracurriculars and that will hurt their application, but that isn’t the case at all. Colleges recognize that some students need to work to help out their family so it won’t work against you. Having a part time job also teaches you a lot of the desirable skills that colleges look for.
If your child is in the process of preparing a college application, these extracurricular activities will be a huge help.
Want to know how much a college will cost you? Look on their website. The tuition, room and board is most likely clearly listed. But is that all it will cost you? If you have or had a student in college, as I did, you know that the tuition, room and board are just the beginning. There are hidden fees you might not see.
By the time you add on lab fees, student fees, dorm damage deposits, technology fees, parking and car registration, activity fees, and the elusive “miscellaneous” fees, you will add from $1000-$5000 in fees to your college bill, depending on the college.
Added to these, you can tack on the cost of books, Greek life, meal plans, and dorm, computer or health insurance to total college costs. And don’t forget travel expenses if your student chooses to attend a college far from home.
In an article in Fortune Magazine, one parent voiced her frustration with the lack of transparency related to college costs:
The fees are typically provided by the college’s bursar’s office, if requested, or listed in various places on a university’s website—but they aren’t always easy to find, says Michelle Gillespy-Goldstein, whose daughter attends the University of Colorado at Boulder.
“The lack of transparency is frustrating,” Gillespy-Goldstein says. “They tell you so many things when they’re recruiting you, but they fail to mention that piece.”
Before choosing a college, parents and students should ask for a detailed listing of additional fees involved if they aren’t listed on the website. In addition, talk to current students on the tour and ask about hidden costs they have encountered while at college.
Why do this? You don’t want any surprises when the first bill arrives.
