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How to Help Your College-Bound Teen Find the Right Job

 

find the right jobFrom high school on, employment will be a constant consideration for your son or daughter. This can elicit mixed feelings among parents. Your child probably already has a daily schedule packed to the brim with studies and extracurricular activities. There’s often barely enough time for what’s already on his or her plate.

Even if financial considerations make securing a job a necessity to defray hefty college costs, you may be skeptical. Could a job take away from, not add to, your child’s ability to earn admission to and succeed in college?

Not if you help your child find the right job. Follow these four simple tips to help your son or daughter find a job that not only puts money in their pockets, but also helps them get into college.

1. Benefits and Bummers
At this point, we have roughly two decades of data showing that students with part-time jobs actually perform better than their unemployed counterparts in school. There’s a caveat, however: 15-20 hours per week is the max at which that benefit shows up. Students without jobs at all follow in academic performance, and students who work more than 20 hours per week fare worst of all.

Make sure any job requires a maximum of 15-20 hours in a week. More demanding jobs will likely do more harm than good.

2. Resumes Rock
Helping your child create a resume may seem odd, especially if he or she has minimal work experience. While many entry-level jobs don’t require a resume, putting one together is a great exercise and lifelong skill. Simply put, it’s training for the real world.

Can your child type quickly and accurately? What about knowledge of office programs such as Word, Excel and PowerPoint? Does your child have knowledge of HTML, Java or C+? Have they held leadership positions at school, on teams or for a charitable organization?

Taking time to organize and document these things is perfect practice for when college applications or new job opportunities roll around. In addition, it will instill a, “What’s the value of this?” mentality that helps your son or daughter understand how work ultimately impacts their lives.

3. Ask Around
Even in the Internet age, many great jobs still aren’t posted online. Leverage your personal network and encourage your child to reach out to his or her own contacts when seeking work. Teachers, school advisors, volunteer coordinators and group leaders may know of unpublicized opportunities that could turn into perfect-fit jobs for the right person.

4. Fantastic Fast Food
I hear groans and see heads shaking already; hear me out, though! Salary, health, and perception issues typically make fast food a less-than-coveted employment option. Don’t immediately dismiss those jobs, however. Quick-service restaurants usually have flexible hours, ideal for already-packed schedules. Such franchises also often help ambitious employees advance quickly, providing rare chances for management experience. Finally, some large chains offer scholarships exclusively to their employees.

To help your child secure a great early-life job, take time to guide him or in assessing skill sets, reviewing relevant options, and ultimately making a deliberate decision. This can provide a huge boost in confidence when it comes time for other job and college interviews. And don’t forget that a part-time job is the perfect opportunity to help your child begin practicing good financial habits that last through and beyond college.

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Today’s guest post is from Ryan Hickey, the Managing Editor of Peterson’s & EssayEdge and an expert in many aspects of college, graduate, and professional admissions. A graduate of Yale University, Ryan has worked in various admissions capacities for nearly a decade, including writing test-prep material for the SAT, AP exams, and TOEFL, editing essays and personal statements, and consulting directly with applicants.

Three tips to ensure internet security in college

 

internet securityUsing the internet is essential when you are a college student. The vast majority of college students use the web to revise for exams, to research and submit assignments, and to communicate with friends and family. However, to ensure your safety and security, there are a number of steps you will need to take when surfing the web.

Here are three tips to ensure internet security in college.

1. Ensuring that your computer is safe and secure

When using the internet at college, make sure that the computer is equipped with the latest security software and web browser to minimize the risk of viruses, threats and other threats.

Make sure that your computer firewall is turned on. If you are using a shared computer in a library or classroom, you may be unable to change the security settings of the computer without permission from the relevant department of your college. If you suspect that the computer is unsafe, or doesn’t have the latest security updates installed, contact a member of staff.

USBs and other devices that you connect to the computer can sometimes contain viruses so will need to be scanned via the security software on your computer.

Ensure that your computer is able to update the latest software updates automatically. You will be able to customize your security settings from the control panel of your security software. Remember, software updates are one of the most important tools to protect safety and security of college students on Internet.

2. Protecting your personal information when browsing the web

You may have to provide some personal information when purchasing items online at college, or when submitting personal details to faculty or members of college staff. Security will need to be adhered to at all times to minimize the risk of cyber-crime.

When choosing a password for an online account, make sure it contains both a capital letter and a number. Your password should be strong enough so that it will not be easily guessed by other people.

Create unique passwords for different online accounts. You may need to create a password to access your college emails for example, or to submit assignments online. Separate passwords for individual online accounts can minimize the cyber-criminals from accessing your details.

Never leave your computer or laptop unattended when you in a public space, for example at the college library or when in a classroom or lecture theatre. Take care to lock the computer and to password protect the account on your operating system to safeguard against other people accessing private information.

3. Protecting college work and assignments

You will most likely be spending long hours completely assignments and other work when at college, so care must be taken to back up your work.
Make an electronic copy of all files, documents, photos, and folders and store this in a safe place using not so complex backup tools. Not only will this ensure that no-body can access your files if your laptop or computer is stolen, but you will be able to access these files if your computer has become affected by a virus.

Label USBs so you can find the files that you are looking for quickly. You may also want to include a phone number or email address on the label so somebody can contact you if you lose it.

Top 5 Testing Tips

 

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Exam time is a stressful and tiring time. Nights leading up to the exam are usually filled with studying and pulling all-nighters at the library and, sometimes, you may just be unsure about how to approach studying for a particular class. Whether you like to plan your studying ahead of time or you don’t think about the exam until the last minute, here are 5 testing tips to help you ace those tests.

  1. Prioritize. In college, there might be times when you have to study for several different classes. It can get overwhelming and stressful. In these cases, prioritizing your workload can be helpful. Dedicate more time studying for an exam that can make or break your grade rather than an exam that won’t affect your grade very much. Once you have strategized your studying, be sure you are reviewing only content that will be on the test and you are not wasting any time by studying irrelevant content.
  2. Review with others. Reviewing with others can be a great way to study for the exam, and oftentimes there will be review sessions provided by the professor. Many will focus on topics that will be covered heavily on the test, which can be helpful in deciding what to study later. Reviewing material with other students can also be helpful. You can teach material you’re confident in, which will make you understand the topics instead of just memorizing them. In turn, your classmates may help you pick up on material you are unsure of. If you are studying with friends, try to stay on topic and don’t study with friends who are not studying for the same exam as it can only lead to distractions.
  3. Study smart. Do not try to reread the whole textbook before the exam. Even if you can get through the book, it can be information overload and it will be hard to remember all of it. Hopefully, you have kept up with the reading throughout the semester so you can go back over your notes instead of attempting to read the book. Skimming through notes can also help you find topics you’re not confident with.
  4. Take breaks. Taking breaks during your study sessions is a must. A good study session should consist of 45 minutes of studying followed by a 15-minute break. This method gives you a mental break and it can help you stay focused since you just need to study for 45 minutes. Eat a healthy snack, take a walk, or talk to friends and you will come back to studying refreshed. Eating and drinking water regularly helps fuel your brain and exercising can help clear your mind.
  5. Be prepared. Before you go into your exam, pack everything you might need. Bring a water bottle to stay hydrated as well. Dress in confortable layers so you are prepared for varying temperatures in your testing room. Head into the exam early so you are not in a rush and stressed out before you even start the testing process.

Exams can be exhausting and full of anxiety but they can be manageable by studying smart and being prepared. These tips can help you go into the next exam with confidence.

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 About today’s guest blogger: Priya Sudendra is a recent graduate of University of Colorado and a staff writer for CollegeFocus, a website dedicated to helping students deal with the challenges of college, including housing, finance, style, health, relationships, and transferring from a community collegeto a four-year university.

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Top 3 Ways a Test Prep Tutor Will Improve Your Test Score

 

test prepStandardized tests such as the ACT, PSAT, and SAT have a lengthy tenure, and they are unlikely to disappear in the near future. They continue to serve as a valuable component of college applications and therefore must be approached very critically. Given the competitiveness of college admissions, a growing number of parents are seeking tutors to guide their children in preparing for these crucial assessments.

So, how can a test prep tutor best assist your student?

Teaching test-taking strategies: The makers of these tests typically rely upon question banks of thousands of problems for each portion of the assessment, so students can succeed when they learn the appropriate strategies for solving these types of questions, rather than just the correct answers. A talented tutor can teach your child how to approach difficult problems, decode mathematics questions, and work through verbal passages – even those with unknown vocabulary.

As these tests are timed, students with strong time management skills are more likely to earn higher scores; possessing the correct answers to the remaining questions won’t matter if time runs out and you are unable to answer them. Depending on the test, it may be useful to either skip more difficult problems or answer them with educated guesses – tutors familiar with the grading of the examination will identify which strategies are useful, as well as how a student’s time should be spent.

Recognizing strengths and improving weaknesses: No two test-takers are alike; the ACT and SAT are standardized, but the individuals who complete them are not. Everyone has certain areas where they consistently perform well and areas where they struggle (perhaps with decoding problems, working toward the right answer, or identifying key vocabulary). A capable tutor will assess your child’s abilities and develop a plan for improvement in his or her weakest subjects.

Many students who excel in the multiple-choice section often struggle with their writing, or vice-versa. Addressing an essay prompt within a specific period of time is a skill your child may or may not possess. A tutor will be able to aid your student in brainstorming, outlining, and writing within the exam’s time limits, all without sacrificing valuable time that could be applied to other portions of the test.

Developing motivation: Reviewing for a standardized test can be a lonely endeavor – unless your student is working in a study group or completing study sessions in school, he or she will likely be reviewing alone. A great test preparation tutor will provide guidance, motivation, and encouragement. Preparing for an assessment can be stressful; students may not grasp the point of devoting so much time to an examination, or they may become overwhelmed by how much the ACT or SAT matters on a college application. A tutor will assist with this. Undoubtedly, the tutor will have his or her own experiences with taking the test and applying for college and university, and he or she can serve as a fantastic role model for your student.

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Richard Bamattre is a professional tutor and contributing writer for Varsity Tutors. He holds a Master’s in Education from UCLA.

How to take a working holiday abroad

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  • As the economic crisis continues to affect countries across the world, the option to work abroad is becoming increasingly popular amongst young people
  • Education, work and sports are the most sought after activities by temporary foreign workers

working holiday abroadAs a result of the economic crisis, one of the words that we have incorporated into our language is ‘emigration’. Tens of thousands of young people have already crossed the border in search of a better future, from neighboring countries to even as far as the Asian market.

In this case, one of things that is influencing those deciding to work abroad more and more is the Work and Travel Program (PVT in Spanish or French) or the Working Holiday Visa, which allows those under 35 to work and holiday at the same time in a foreign country for between 6 and 12 months.

Also called the Holiday-Work Visa (VVT in Spanish) or the Working Holiday Program, it is the result of mutual agreements that seek to encourage young people to travel to all parts of the world, with the possibility of finding part time work to finance their stay there. Australia, Canada and New Zealand are considered the best destinations by those embarking on such an adventure.

Working while on holiday or during the summer

There are two categories within the Holiday and Work Program. The first of these provides the opportunity for students to work during the summer months. This is designed for younger students who want to take advantage of their summer break and experience working abroad, with a maximum period of 3 months. For this option it is essential that the student is enrolled in post-secondary education or at a training centre and carries the requested travel insurance.

working abroadThe other option concerns working while holidaying, designed for travellers who want to sightsee, get to the know the culture and work at the same time. The maximum duration is 12 months. This is the option that is becoming increasingly more popular amongst Spaniards, as it offers a clear solution to the problem of unemployment that is affecting many countries, with the added attraction of possibly learning a new language.

Beatriz Valiente, in charge of customers relations at AVI International, highlights “the significant increase in the number of calls and contact we have received regarding our Working Holiday insurance for 2012, especially insurance for general covers”. Other issues of particular interest for applicants are that this visa has “the option of integrating sports and leisure  or manual work into the insurance, and that it includes the possibility to visit neighbouring countries, which it does include, but only for a maximum of two weeks.”

And what destinations do people choose? There are dozens of countries that you can travel to with a Working Holiday visa. China and Taiwan are recent additions, although they are not yet in high demand. “100% of those Spanish people insured have chosen Canada to carry out their Working Holiday”, Beatriz Valiente points out, “while the majority of French insured go to Australia, followed by New Zealand and then Canada. Very few opt to travel and work in other countries such as such as Argentina, South Korea, Japan or Singapore and the new destination: Hong Kong.”

5 pieces of advice for the Working Holiday Visa

When it comes to applying for a Working Holiday visa, often there are limitations attached to the criteria that the applicant must meet, which in many cases are restrictive:

  • It is essential to be between 18 and 35 years old, with both these ages included.
  • For some destinations it is necessary to carry with you a large sum of money as costs can escalate at the beginning of your stay.
  • One of the key requirements is that your medical insurance covers you for the entire duration of your stay. When it comes to confirming it, Beatriz Valiente adds that this criterion is “absolutely essential for the Working Holiday visa to be accepted.”
  • It is important to know what limitations exist when it comes to studying and working. In the case of New Zealand and Canada, the Working Holiday visa only allows you to study for a period of 6 months, and to work for up to 1 year. As for Australia, a certain level of accredited English is also required. Your country of origin can also play a part in what countries you can travel to.
  • Analysing the possible destinations and their economic and unemployment rates, with the aim of choosing a country that offers the best employment opportunities.

Therefore it is important to know in detail the necessary requirements and characteristics for each country, so that you can plan in advance on how to make the most of your trip and have the best experience possible. Looking ahead, it is one of the options being considered more and more: “I believe that it is a product that will work really well in the next few years; many Spaniards leaving the country in search of work, prices are economical and conditions are very good”, concludes our contact at AVI International.

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Today’s post is from AVI International, a leading provider of travel insurance for tourists and those who holiday abroad.

 

 

How to Prepare an Art or Design Portfolio: Top 5 Tips

 

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animationPerhaps your son or daughter has always been good with a brush and a pen or with video art, and now as a high school junior or senior they’re talking about majoring in an art or design field. That means they need to compile samples of their work into an art or design portfolio.

A portfolio is required for admission to many art and design programs and for consideration in nearly all scholarship programs. It should be thoughtfully put together and include pieces that represent your child’s overall artistic strengths and interests. So, you can’t just mail a few favorite pieces. The portfolio tells the admissions counselors about who your child is and what sets your child apart from other candidates.

If a college application deadline is looming and neither you nor your child has even thought about a portfolio, don’t feel bad. You’re not alone. Here are five things to remember as your student compiles their portfolio.

  1. Find 10 to 20 pieces that highlight all-around abilities and work as a group. Include a variety of pieces that show your child’s personality and willingness to dedicate time to a project. All pieces must be original ideas, not “borrowed” or copied from others’ works. For example, consider including a sketchbook that demonstrates creative thinking. Be sure to include specific school requirements, or your portfolio will be tossed out.
  2. Make sure the works make sense as a group and are arranged well.  fashion designWhen deciding which pieces to include, look at your work as a group: What can each contribute to the portfolio? What does each communicate to the reviewer? Does the piece showcase a skill-set? Order also is important. The first piece in the portfolio should make a strong statement and set the tone for the rest of the presentation. The following pieces should show ability, with the most expressive works placed in the middle.
  3. Ensure that all portfolio items are professionally presented. Once the pieces have been selected and arranged, make sure everything is labeled properly and easy to read (toss out those Post It Notes!). For example, to best present 3-D pieces, photograph them against a backdrop for a professional presentation. Remember, admissions offices will be reviewing thousands of applications, so you want your child’s to stand out (not because it’s sloppy, but because it’s well thought out and put together).pottery group
  4. Ask for help and be open to the advice.The portfolio should only include your child’sbest work, yet it’s tough to critique a loved ones work. Ask teachers, colleagues and friends for their opinion on the portfolio before it’s submitted. Also, most colleges encourage in-person preliminary portfolio reviews during junior and senior year. Take a few samples to the visit, and college admission staff will guide your child on pieces that are worth editing and further developing for their portfolio. Fortunately, plenty of resources exist for students to create a portfolio that will boost confidence in current skills and pave the way to a life in art and design.
  5. Follow submission guidelines and never miss a deadline. Read and re-read the submission guidelines to make sure proper steps are taken to prepare and submit the portfolio. For example, the college may have specific digital submission requirements if you submit your portfolio electronically. And, be aware of all deadlines for submission. Even if you’re in a time crunch, staying up late to ensure the pieces selected represent your child’s work is arranged well, and professionally presented may mean the difference between the application being accepted or rejected.

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Today’s guest blogger, Densil R. R. Porteous II is the Director of Admissions for CCAD. Prior to joining CCAD he was an assistant dean of admission for marketing and outreach at Sanford University and an associate dean/director of college counseling at the Drew School in San Francisco. He is a graduate of Kenyon College. Densil can be reached at Dporteous@ccad.edu. CCAD is one of the oldest and largest private art and design colleges offering bachelor’s and master’s degrees in Fine Arts in the United States. www.ccad.edu

Last minute study tips for the PSAT

 

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For many high school students, their first big standardized test is the PSAT, which is scheduled for this Saturday across the country. The PSAT is more or less a practice test for the SAT, but with one big distinction; scoring well can get you named as a National Merit Scholar finalist and earn you cash for college. It’s the perfect test to figure out your best strategies for test prep — especially if you’re a sophomore taking it for the first time.

Many students don’t prep for the PSAT like they would for the SAT or ACT. If you’re starting today or just looking to squeeze in a few last minute prep sessions before Saturday’s test, read on for some quick tips and tricks.

Take a Practice Test

The PSAT takes about 2 hours from start to finish. If you’ve never sat for an exam of that length, going through a practice exam can accomplish three things. First, it will give you confidence that you can actually sit for the complete test and get through the entire exam. Second, it will give you a sense of areas you can make quick improvements on. For example, you may discover that you aren’t getting through all of the math questions, or that you’re rusty on some aspects of the geometry but are racing through the algebra. Third and finally, it will get you familiar with the test structure. Remember that the PSAT has the exact same structure on every single test; only the questions change.

Brush Up on What You Don’t Know

Now that you’ve taken a test and identified areas for improvement, drill down on those areas. Don’t waste time reviewing every topic covered on the test since undoubtedly you’re zipping through some questions without an issue. If you’re struggling with Algebra, spend time getting Algebra help and reviewing factoring and quadratics, instead of using your valuable last minute study time reviewing geometry concepts.

Develop a Strategy For Skipping Questions

Figure out when you’re going to skip questions, and when you’re going to guess. According to the College Board (who administers the PSAT), “Students can earn an above-average score by getting only half the questions right and omitting answers for the rest of the questions.” Random guessing won’t help you earn a great score, but if you can narrow your answer choices down to two answers, it’s worth it to guess (you’ll lose ¼ point for every wrong answer). Give yourself a time window for answering tough questions; you won’t benefit from spending 5 minutes on question you inevitably get wrong. If you’re struggling to figure out how to tackle a question in the first 15 seconds and don’t have an inkling of how to solve it, move on; you can always come back later.

Don’t Stress Too Much

Remember that the PSAT is a practice test (except for the National Merit qualification). It won’t determine the rest of your life and stressing out too much won’t help you much anyway. Make sure you eat a healthy dinner the night before, get a good night’s sleep, and then eat a healthy breakfast the morning of. If you can, get some exercise the day before as well (working out can aid in brain function).

The PSAT is the first of many standardized tests — SATs, ACTs, APs, placement tests — that you’ll encounter in your life. And for the most part, this is one of the few exams whose outcome is not all that important. Use this as an opportunity to build up good test-taking strategies that you can apply not only to the PSAT, but to other standardized tests as you come across them in the future.

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Today’s guest blogger, Laura Oppenheimer, works for InstaEDU, the online tutoring company that offers online PSAT test prep and tutoring.

Support for students with learning disabilities: New Frontiers in Learning

 

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There has been a recent trend towards an increasing number of students with learning differences attending college each year. While this is a tremendous accomplishment, colleges may not have the resources to support students with challenges in academic learning, executive functioning, and social interaction. In addition, these students may not have the self-advocacy, executive functioning and independence skills necessary to be successful at the college level.

New Frontiers in Learning comes to the rescue

new frontiersWith this new wave comes New Frontiers in Learning, the next generation of secondary and post-secondary supports designed specifically to meet the academic, social, and career development needs of students with learning disabilities, autism spectrum disorders, and related learning differences. New Frontiers allows students to choose a college or university based on where they want to attend, and not on what type of support services are available. Academic, social engagement, and career development supports can be brought directly to the student and supplement the supports the colleges are providing based on the individual needs of the students.

Providing support for learning disabled students

New Frontiers provides academic, social, and career development support to students, as well as executive functioning instruction and the development of college readiness skills. The New Frontiers staff has considerable experience supporting students through the transition from high school to college, through college, and beyond. Each member of the administrative staff holds a Master’s degree or beyond in special education. New Frontiers’ coaches possess a minimum of a Bachelor’s degree from a highly accredited university.

A summer program for students

The New Frontiers in Learning summer program, Summer in the City, is a hands on experience tied to the development of each student’s executive functioning skills, while working on social relationships as students experience the culture and excitement of New York City. Morning sessions include reading and writing at the high school and college level and strategy instruction to build executive functioning competence for everyday personal management. Afternoons are filled with New York City experiences and adventures.

Tutoring and coaching services

The academic year and summer and winter session tutoring and coaching services at New Frontiers have been designed to provide individually customized academic and social support services to adolescents and young adults with challenges in academic learning, executive functioning, and social interaction. Services begin in ninth grade and continue through college and beyond. The program works to maintain high academic and social standards for all students, promoting strong relationships in all phases of the student’s life. New Frontiers works with students closely to become a strong liaison between students and their respective institutions. This includes assisting with communication between peers, school officials, residence life advisors, and faculty to make each student’s experience as enjoyable as possible.

 

The Benefits of Failure, and the Failure of Ranking

 

failureLook around you and examine all the inventions surrounding you: is there a light bulb in the room? Is there an IPod playing music in the background? Is there a vacuum cleaner in the closest? We see these objects and we remember the success of their inventors, but what we often don’t think about is all the failure that they experienced before they finally created the product we use today. And we forget that those failures were the most essential part of the invention process: they provided information about what methods didn’t work and what the inventors should try next. Still, we ignore those failures because, as a culture, we have forgotten the importance of failure and have made it something to be avoided, punished, and forgotten.

Why has this become part of our culture? Well, our education system, through its use of ranking systems and punishments, has ingrained students with the idea that failure is to be avoided at all costs. When students receive an “F” on their report card they are scolded or held back, both of which are negative consequences for their failure. And when students succeed, they are given an “A” and praised. Students quickly learn to use the most accepted methods to achieve good grades and to not attempt things in which they may fail.  These lessons have created a culture of individuals who avoid new or creative avenues of thought in favor of the tried and true as to avoid failure.  Instead of encouraging learning, the ranking system has taught students only how to follow instructions and do as they’re told, effectively squashing the learning process.

Why Failure is an Essential Process of Learning

Babies are perfect examples of how failure can be the best teacher. As babies develop and learn things like walking and talking, adults are not actively instructing or ranking their progress. Instead, babies learn through a process of experimentation: they simply try over and over again until they achieve the results they were looking for.

Think of a baby beginning to walk. They stand and they walk until they fall down. And then they try it again. Every attempt teaches them new things about what works the best until all of the sudden they are walking and then even running. A similar process happens with talking: babies attempt talking for a long time before they ever successfully articulate a word. This same process that we accept in young children is the one we have destroyed in our education system. Those creative learning powers that babies use so easily have been stripped from us in our adolescence, severely hampering our learning abilities.

The Failure of Ranking Systems in Schools

The grading system itself is not what causes this fear of failure, that has come with the work of schools in turning failure into something sinful and wrong. Think of a time you received a poor grade in a class. Did your parents or teachers ask you what methods you tried? Did they congratulate you on trying something different? Did they encourage you to try a new method to see if it worked better?  Most likely, their response was to scold or punish you for your inability, maybe you were even held back a grade. This response to a bad grade teaches students that their failure is shameful and never to be repeated.

As students learn this lesson better and better, they begin to employ two methods to avoid failure. They stop exploring and experimenting with various solutions or processes, and instead, they begin to follow the most consistent method of achieving success. Students learn how to follow instructions rather than engaging with the problem in a meaningful way.  The second method that many students employ is to stop trying. They label themselves as someone who is not capable of the task. “I’m not a math person” or “I’ll never understand English” are defense mechanisms to prevent the shame of failure. These methods will follow students into their future professions where they will avoid tasks that appear too challenging or stick with the approved methods instead of attempting innovation.

How Can We Remedy the Damage?

The first step to accepting failure and learning from it is to remove the idea of shame from failure. This means also removing the blame. We often assign blame when failure is involved, and when a student fails, it’s their abilities that we blame for their failure. However, we must change this attitude and stop trying to assign blame. Instead we must first consider the reason for failure and assess whether a lesson can be learned from this failure. If the student has failed because they weren’t sure exactly how to accomplish something and simply tried a method, we need to acknowledge their attempts and encourage them to try a new method.  We want to encourage students to seek success because they want the satisfaction rather than asking them to achieve success in order to conform and avoid punishment. By doing this we can re-establish the value of failure, and we can begin again to learn the important lessons failure has to offer us.

What We Stand to Gain

There’s an old saying that goes “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” This saying espouses an idea that failure is not the end of a process; instead, it is a stepping stone on the pass to success. We have lost the wisdom of this idea and have become crippled with our fear of failure. For a moment, imagine how many things you would try or do differently if you were not worried about failing. Isn’t it freeing? By removing the shame of failure from our school systems, we may be able to release our students to a land of learning full of experimentation, innovation, and success.

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Today’s guest post is contributed by Launch Education Group, founded in 2007. They offer one-to-one, in-home quality tutoring programs for SAT and ISEE prep in the greater Los Angeles and New York City area. Follow Launch Education Group on Facebook.

 

Keeping “overwhelm” out of the college application process

 

Today’s guest post is from a lovely lady I met at Blogher13 a few weeks ago. She’s written a book about attitude reconstruction and I thought some of her ideas might be helpful to parents and teens to alleviate feelings of stress.

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college application stressThe college application process can feel overwhelming. Successfully completing this task requires breaking big jobs down into small doable pieces, dealing with the fear, keeping your thoughts constructive, and staying focused on what is in front of you today.

Find a buddy

Regardless of how involved your parents are in the process, find a buddy who also needs support and help each other. This will counter feelings of isolation. Decide how often you’ll check in to keep motivated, set up a regular time, and follow through. Offer each other appreciations for tasks completed and use this as a time to get clear on your next steps.

Outline your goals

Start the application process by outlining your goal in getting a higher education. Then identify potential schools that meet your qualifications. Assemble a list by going to the library, meeting with school counselors, or tapping into other resources, such as college guides. If this seems too daunting, do your research in small blocks of time. For example, make an appointment to talk with someone one day, visit a campus, or gather information by surfing the Internet for a half hour at a time (or even less). When your list is complete, select your chosen schools.

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