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Summer To-Do List for New College Parents

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Graduation is upon us and that means the future (college future) for many, lies ahead. While it’s tempting to take the summer off, and you want to spend as much time with your future college student as possible,

Get organized and set up a calendar

Preparing for a semester is a key part to ensure academic success!

College students find themselves juggling classes, homework, work, parties, clubs, organizations, dates, volunteering, and everything in between. With only 24 hours in the day, and only one mind to juggle it all, this can be a lot to manage.

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From Acceptance to Graduation and Beyond

GRADUATION

The acceptance letters have arrived and your student is ready to make his final college decision and then move forward to graduation. Check the box–going to college! It’s a tremendous accomplishment for both students and their parents.

It’s not just your student who is graduating–you are too! You planned for years for your student to go to college and now he has been accepted. After years of planning it’s time to start a new chapter in your life as well. 

First things first–do some celebrating. You’ve earned it. It was a difficult task to raise a successful high school graduate and soon-to-be college student. Allow yourself some time to bask in the accomplishment. This is also time to flood him with showers of praise and words of encouragement. He’s worked hard for this and he needs to hear that you are proud of him. 

Once the celebration dust settles, to help you head into the next phase, we have some suggestions to assist with the transition.

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The Next Step After college decision day

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Yesterday was National College Decision Day. It’s the day your student made the final college decision and locked in their future. Now it’s time to move forward.

Your student can start by completing these tasks before transitioning to college.

1. Send in your deposit and apply for college housing

First things first—by now you should have sent in your deposit to your final college choice and applied for dorm housing. The national decision deadline is May 1st and there are no exceptions or do-overs. If you are even one day late, you may forfeit your place in their freshman class.

2. If you have chosen to defer, complete the necessary paperwork

If you have already decided to defer, contact the college and make sure that is an option. Most colleges will allow students to defer their admission for a year if they ask. But you must ask. Be sure to ask if you need to sign an agreement or make a deposit to hold your spot for next year.

3. If you are taking a gap year, finalize plans.

Gap years are becoming more popular among students and many colleges are even encouraging them. Take time to plan your gap year and have a clear purpose in mind. Whether you choose to travel abroad, stay home and work, or explore careers, it’s a good idea to finalize those plans before graduation.

4. Attend “Accepted Students Day” and register for orientation.

If at all possible, attend the college’s accepted student day. Colleges encourage students to attend to familiarize themselves with the college, meet other students, and use this event to make their final decision. Later, after you have accepted an offer of admission, you should try to attend college orientation. Don’t forget to register for this important event.

5. Consider a summer college program.

Many colleges offer summer pre-college or community service programs. Investigate the college you will be attending and ask if there are any programs in your area of interest or your intended major. Colleges like Brown University offer a wide variety of programs from academics to adventure.

For tasks 6-10, read the original article at TeenLife.com.

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Parent Orientation Dos and Don’ts

 

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In recent years, more and more colleges and universities have offered orientation events specifically geared toward parents during the days or weeks before school starts. Attending such events may require taking time off from work, traveling and even paying for admission. With events ranging from “Meet the Dean” to model classes and seminars on “Letting Go,” parent orientations offer an in-depth understanding of today’s college experience that can’t be had from a distance.

Lori Domingo, whose student was heading to a military college, said, “If you have the chance to attend such an orientation, I would highly recommend doing so.”

Recognizing the importance of this transition time, here’s a list of dos for parent orientation:

Do attend

This may seem obvious but many parents feel it’s unnecessary or too costly to attend parent orientation. Thus far, the response to these programs has been overwhelmingly positive. Parent testimonials on the University of Colorado Boulder website called the orientation “informative,” “helpful,” and “phenomenal.” Parents who have attended these sessions comment they alleviated unnecessary stress while also giving them confidence that their children are in good hands.

Do ask questions

Parent orientation provides a wealth of information for parents, but you can get even more out of it if you prepare questions to ask the campus staff that you meet while there. Asking the right questions will help you gather information and ease your mind during the transition.

Here are are 5 questions I suggest you ask:

  • What types of services does the health center provide?—You need to find out if your health insurance is accepted by them and what the process is for co-payments, filing a claim, etc.
  • What type of emergency action is taken in the event of a school shooting or other dangerous action?—Most colleges have steps in place to contact students and parents when an emergency arises.
  • What is the parental notification policy?—Ask how the college notifies you if your student is caught drinking or committing other serious offenses.
  • Do you have a parent association?—If so, how many parents participate? Are they active on campus? What specifically does the group do?
  • Who is the point of contact for parents?—Ask if there is a parent relations office and who do you call if you have questions or concerns.

Do stick to the school’s plan

There will be programming especially designed for parents that takes place while your student is attending their own orientation. There are things you will need to learn and tons of information to absorb. Use the time wisely, pay attention and stay focused.

Do take notes

You are going to be bombarded with mounds of information. Take notes during each of the sessions, especially related to information you want to discuss with your soon-to-be college student.

Do learn about college resources for parents

As mentioned above, ask questions while you are attending orientation. Specifically, what resources are available for parents and what specific events are provided to keep parents involved, i.e. Parents Weekend. Learn especially when and how you can communicate with the college if you have concerns about your student.

Here’s a list of don’ts for parent orientation:

Don’t supervise your child’s experience

The worst thing you can do is agonize and worry about your student’s orientation experience. It causes you to lose focus and robs you of having your own. If the college feels it’s important for your student to be on their own, respect that and keep your distance.

Don’t embarrass your student

When my daughter went to college orientation, I saw parents insisting on attending the student orientation with them. They complained that their student could not be trusted to come back with a report or remember what they were told. This is no way to start your student’s college experience.

Don’t waste the staff’s time

During the Q&A sessions listen to other parents’ questions and don’t ask them if they are answered. If you have a question that hasn’t been asked, this is the time to speak up. Otherwise, take notes and listen to the questions and the responses.

Don’t sit in the corner and be silent

This is your opportunity to get to know other parents, communicate with staff and faculty, and make some new friends. It’s a given that you will need parental support during the next four years. What better opportunity to make connections, exchange emails and phone numbers, and compare notes than at parent orientation?

Don’t fret and stress

Parent orientation is a college’s way of helping parents make the transition from high school parent to college parent. Their main focus is on helping parents let go, informing parents about resources available, and giving the parents a forum to ask questions. Enjoy the sessions and make the most of every opportunity to make positive connections. If you have a genuine concern, like student safety, for instance, you can ask questions to ease your mind.

Colleges recognize that parents are more involved in their student’s lives than ever before. One college, Brandeis University, has changed its stance from telling parents to detach to encouraging they stay involved. Andrew Flagel, senior vice president for students and enrollment at the college explains:

“The concept of keeping parents at arm’s length can become very unproductive,” Flagel said. “In an age of digital technology and social media, that process of parents and students communicating back and forth is very positive.”

“Parents feel like they are a part of what’s going on at campus. That’s not helicoptering, that’s just being proud of what their child is doing,” he added. “My advice is to keep being the kind of parent you most want to be.”

Priscilla Childress in University Parent’s Guide to Supporting your Student’s Freshman Year, encourages parents to attend:

I’m a strong advocate for attending parent orientation. At each of my daughter’s orientations I learned things I didn’t know, made new friends, and most importantly came away with a sense of calm. I wasn’t as anxious as I had been because I saw the school (rather than just touring it), met the key players, and discovered that the faculty, staff, and administration wanted to see my daughters succeed as much as I did.

Parent orientation should be on your to-do list this summer. It’s probably the most important task to complete before your student leaves for college in the fall. See it as an opportunity to help you relax, gather information, and see what your student will be doing in the fall.

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College Parent Orientation Tips

 

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Parents gather at the University of Minnesota.

College orientation is upon us and students (and parents) will be attending this all-important event in preparation for college in the fall. What will you learn? Will orientation be able to answer all of your questions? Should you attend? Will this help you with the transition in the fall?

Parent orientation has become an integral part of the student’s transition to college, helping to answer parent concerns. A Q&A from Kathryn Kay, the Director of Orientation and Assistant Director of Student Programs at Georgetown University, provides some great insights and useful tips for parents about their role in their college student’s life.

Follow the link to the interview in the “For Parents” section of Zinch’s High School Blog.

 

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Dorm tips for new college freshmen

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Female College StudentMoving into the dorm as a college student is exciting— so exciting that germs and bacteria are the last worry on a freshman’s mind. The come-and-go sense of independence, co-ed hallways, late-night weekend hangouts— by sharing such close communal spaces though from the dorm room to the bathroom, immunity from germs and sickness is impossible.

Teach your kid these dorm tips to keep your future college student happy and healthy.

Communicate About Cleanliness

Mix laziness, zero communication, assumptions and passive aggressiveness and you have an ongoing unclean room shared between two people. Encourage your kid to be upfront and communicate with the new roommate by discussing who cleans what and when. Open the doors for discussion and explain that holding in irritations will only worsen the living situation and energy exchanged. Also, your own college student may be the dirty culprit himself. Remind him that a those nasty food plates will bring in bugs and a dirty room will make him sick. Gross!

Stock Up on Sanitizing Wipes

Regularly wiping down the doorknob, microwave oven, computer keyboard and mouse, and other areas that are highly touched eliminates germs and bacteria from growing. Shop for sanitizing wipes in bulk and your college student can just easily take an antibacterial wipe to anything for a quick clean. Whether you prefer Clorox or Lysol, these wipes are an easy cleaning solution for a college student who struggles with maintaining a spotless space.

Use Hand Sanitizer

Public surfaces like the dormitory bathroom door handles and classroom stairway railings are hotspots for germs. Sanitizing these surfaces before using them is a faux pas, okay — and who has time for that anyway? Do the next best thing. Tell your kid to keep a small bottle of liquid hand sanitizer with her. She can discreetly spritz hands after touching something in a public area, especially during cold and flu season.

Keep Multiple Sets of Sheets

Buy several sets of sheets so it’s always easy to put fresh and clean ones on dorm bedroom mattresses. The desire to be clean is likely to be trumped by the desire to not do laundry, or at least frequently. By having plenty of spare sheets, trips to the laundromat are kept to a minimum and the bed stays clean for healthy nights of sleep.

Take Vitamins

College kids live on pizza and chips? Unfortunately, dining hall food choices, dorm room snacks and alcohol aren’t the most nutritious. Make sure your college student keeps his immune system strong by taking a multivitamin daily. Although vitamins can generally be expensive, there are less costly options. Try Vitacost’s Synergy Once Daily Multi-Vitamin for a supplement that is high-quality, reasonably priced and easy to take between classes.

Work It Out

The value of exercise isn’t groundbreaking news, yet emphasize to your kid how staying active improves the immune system. Walking for 30 minutes a day can prevent colds, for instance. Nobody wants to wake up with a sore throat and sit in the germ-infested waiting room at the on-campus clinic. Between cramming for exams and hanging out with friends, the gym can be a place of neglect. During that weekly phone call with your son or daughter, remind them that an active body is a healthy body!

Let’s face it though–rarely do students listen to us or take the time to follow these healthy habits. I know my kids didn’t, in spite of my constant insistence. The best we can hope for is that they grasp onto just a few of these tips. And it’s our right to “remind” them every chance we get!

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Making the most of college orientation

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It is an exciting time for the whole family when a daughter or son begins college. This is not only a transition from one phase of education to the next, but the beginning of a child’s first years away from home and, in many cases, the parents’ first years with an “empty nest.” Parents may experience this distance as a relief, a cause for worry or both, and many would like a little guidance. College orientation for parents can provide some of that guidance, as well as equipping parents with a more accurate mental picture of what their child’s new life will be like. Read on to learn how to make the most of your orientation.

Why Orientation Matters

College orientation offers students and parents a glimpse of the school that will play a defining role in the whole family’s life for the next four years, and in that sense, it should be just as important to parents as students. Becoming familiar with the physical campus and the school culture will make it easier for parents to understand their children’s lives and have informed conversations with them in the coming years. Learning about rules, campus safety and the academic calendar will also be of practical value to many parents for obvious reasons. Meeting other parents will also provide a feeling of community, as well as the potential for long-lasting friendships.

Parent Orientation

In recent years, more and more colleges and universities have offered orientation events specifically geared toward parents during the days or weeks before school starts. Attending such events may require taking time off from work, traveling and even paying for admission. However, the BostonGlobe reports that most parents found the events to be more than worthwhile. With events ranging from “Meet the Dean” to model classes and seminars on “Letting Go,” parent orientations offer an in-depth understanding of today’s college experience that can’t be had from a distance.

If There is No Parent Orientation

While parent orientations have become the standard at large colleges and universities, some smaller schools still do not offer these events. Parent orientation is less of a necessity at small schools, which are more personal and less bureaucratic. If this is the case, you should check with both the school and your child about whether it is appropriate for you to attend student orientation events. Spending time on campus, meeting a few other students and parents, and helping your student to settle into his or her dorm are generally very positive experiences — but it is also important to recognize the boundaries around your student’s new life outside your home. Remember: If the school doesn’t offer a seminar on “Letting Go,” you still have to let go.

How to Prepare

Try to think of yourself as both a parent and a student during your orientation. Bring paper and pencil or an iPad to take notes with, make sure to ask questions and introduce yourself to parents and school officials. Especially at a large institution, it can be helpful to get to know a couple of contacts personally or at least to know who to talk to if you have a question about financial aid or your child’s academic record. In addition to taking care of the practical details, you will also benefit more from the experience if you allow yourself to enjoy it.

 

Your child’s transition from living and studying at home to his or her first year of college is a major moment for the whole family, and many parents find orientation helpful and enjoyable. But particularly busy parents of independent children may simply skip the event, and this is a valid choice as well. Most schools that offer parent orientations strongly encourage you to take advantage of them, but it is not a requirement. The decision to attend orientation is much like the decision to go college itself: You should go because you want to learn something and to enjoy it. This attitude will also help you to get the most out of your orientation.

 

Sources:

http://www.boston.com/news/education/higher/articles/2010/07/06/empty_nest_101_college_orientation_for_parents/

http://www.collegeparentcentral.com/2009/04/college–parent–orientation–a–key–beginning/

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Today’s guest post was written by Melissa Woodson, the community manager for @WashULaw, a premier program for foreign attorneys to earn their LLMOnline, offered through Washington University in St. Louis. In her spare time, she enjoys running, cooking, and making half-baked attempts at training her dog.