Heading off to college is a fun and exciting event in the lives of most young people, marking the beginning of adulthood and their first foray into a world without parents to feed, cloth, and care for them (although you will no doubt be contributing for some time to come). Certainly there are stresses, anxieties, and fears that go along with leaving the nest, but most high-school grads are more than ready to get out from under the yoke of parental supervision and start figuring out who they are and what they want to do with their lives. In short, the good outweighs the bad.

But for some students, the dream of freedom can become a nightmare. Whether they’ve had previous bouts of depression or they experience the condition for the first time while they’re far away from home, they may fall into deep sadness, dejection, or even despair during their time on campus, for one reason or another. And if you fear that your college student is suffering from depression, there are a few things you need to know.

1. Anyone can get depressed. It is a common misconception that depression only affects people who have a chemical balance, or those who have a history of the condition in their family tree. But under the right circumstances anyone can suffer from mild, moderate, or even severe depression. It could have to do with a lack of sleep and a poor diet (not just the cause of the freshman fifteen). Or your teen may find the workload, stress, and/or homesickness overwhelming. Perhaps there are social issues at play. The point is that you shouldn’t discount the possibility of depression out of hand simply because there is no medical history to support it.
2. There are warning signs. Many parents are not informed enough to identify depression, but you know when something is off with your child. Luckily, there are common signs and symptoms you can look for if you think your student might be depressed. For example, fatigue on its own might not tip you off since most students are short on sleep, but if your otherwise sunny student suddenly seems pessimistic, irritable, disinterested, sad, or anxious, you might start to wonder if depression is to blame. And if your child begins to express feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, or worthlessness, or worse, has thoughts of suicide, the situation is reaching a critical stage and you need to intervene.
3. Depression can be deadly. Depression is a disorder that causes people to lose interest in the things that once made them happy, and as a result, they may not want to go on living. You might think that this happens only in extreme cases, but when depression goes untreated it can quickly spiral into thoughts of suicide, especially in teens and young adults whose emotions are linked to hormonal changes (and whose limited experience hasn’t taught them that things will get better). It is therefore imperative that you take warning signs seriously.
4. Stay close. If your college student is suffering from depression you need to make yourself available to help. This could mean calling every day to check in, arranging for both independent and family counseling, or even moving your child back home to deal with the condition. What you cannot do is let your child slip away when there’s so much you can do to help.
5. Campus services are available. While some students may be unable to cope with both college and the onset of depression, others may be able to deal with or perhaps even overcome their disorder with help so that they can continue their education uninterrupted. And whether your student is at the University of Arizona or an Ivy League institution like Yale, you’ll find that there are services available on campus designed to help students suffering from depression that can ensure their safety and ease their burden so that they make it to graduation.

The worst thing a parent can do is ignore the problem. Stay attentive and listen, and above all, find help when needed.